He used to be so sweet to me, made me feel like he really liked me. I have had a huge crush on him for way too long! I let my guard down and made out with him a few times. The more I saw him, the more the signs were there that he was just fooling with me, using me when it was obvious that I really liked him, but I was so weak around him, and in denial about the whole thing, so I let him take advantage of me (his kisses just felt so good). Lately he has acted completely uninterested, lies that he wants to see me, and then stood me up! I am so sure now that he just used me and is just scum, but I still want him, and feel sad about it! Why?!? I really just want to hate him and forget all about him, but I still keep thinking "maybe this will happen, or maybe he'll act different" but I know it is so hopeless, and I shouldn't even want a man who treated me that way? What is wrong with me. Why can't I stop thinking about him and get over it?
2006-12-09 08:28:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to realize that he knew which buttons to push to get what he wanted, and then he moved on. Acknowledge your feelings instead of fighting them, but refuse to act on them. Let your heart feel what it wants but make a conscious decision to choose not to let him affect your mood. Sometimes, you feel like he's the one who got away. Try to fall out of love with him. Instead of re-hashing the good things in your mind over and over again, remember the bad things and how bad he made you feel. Believe that there is someone better out there and get out and meet more people. Honor yourself, and don't let this jerk dishonor you. Peace my sister!
2006-12-11 15:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by angelblue112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart can't help who it cares for no matter how much your mind may tell you it's wrong. Everyone wants someone to care for them, but not at the expense of your self respect and dignity. Let him know that you feel like he really doesn't care about you and that you owe yourself better than how he is treating you. Go back to school, get a new job, meet new people.
If he does care, he'll change it and turn it into a "real" relationship. If not you have lost nothing you didn't already have.
Be true to yourself. Good luck!
2006-12-09 12:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by stormy_one67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low self esteem! Get a grip! You deserve better. Or maybe you have to be in control and this is a situation you cannot control?
I would suggest getting some counseling and a new life! Hang with your friends and have fun. You do not need a guy to make you someone.
2006-12-09 08:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by jamocha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm really sorry to say but as a girl half of your story has happened to me. i think you should get over him like me. i have six months still not forgeting about him...you still have a crush on him, only that you don't know if he does... you are in love more than ever girl.. just like me!
2006-12-09 08:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by CoutureAddict. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you love him, and when you first liked
him then started hooking
up with him made you like him even more
and liked being with him.
Dont worry. Try to get him to fal for you.
Just give him the inocent look of him wanting
you.
Try to get him to fall for you
and maybe you guys will make something.
Just start getting him to like you
more and more...
you can do it : ]]
good luck!
-cindy
2006-12-09 08:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls are like dogs. You treat them bad enough they'll think they've done something to deserve it. He's a jerk, move on and find someone else.
2006-12-09 08:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by jerjer09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously it sounds like it is just lust. get your mind off him. I had a pitty party. invited a **** load of friends. it works trust me. you willl feel a lot better once he is off of your mind. call me and we can talk. we could have a ******* beer then get totally wold
2006-12-09 13:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by taylorraymon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should u have to.
2006-12-09 08:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you love him
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2006-12-09 08:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋