We have been in and out of each other's lives for 10 years.This last time he truly hurt me, but due to our history I will always love him.I loaned him money and afterwards he disappeared.We talked on the phone and through MySpace and he promised to return it, but never did.The conversations got worse over time and all we would do was fight and say things that would deeply hurt one another. In our last talk he promised to repay that coming weekend but I was hurt and tired of trying to collect.We have a 10 year history, and I just want him to know that I have forgiven him, that I believe in his talents and in him, and I wish him happiness and success.He doesn't have the same phone number anymore, we don't have mutual friends, and he asked that I not contact him through MySpace.Would it be okay to contact him just to let him know that there are no hard feelings and I wish him all the best or would that be disrespecting him? I just want him to find happiness.What do I do?I need closure!
2006-12-08 14:55:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there's nothing wrong about forgiving.. actualy that is a nice move.. forget about what your ego tells you.. but always remember, after you forgive,you let go.thereby, you could get peace of mind. but if you just forgive him bec. you want him back, then you're just bringing the hell again.. tell him you are sorry, and you are wishing all the best for him then finish.. it's done. it's not like forgetting your pride, but to have a peace of mind.. just FORGIVE,THEN LET GO..
2006-12-08 15:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with sending him that message, but only do it once, and leave it alone. and if he truly misses you or believes you after that let him do the chasing. or get back to you.and when you write something don't make it long make it short and to the point good luck.
2006-12-08 23:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then find closure by doing as he asked and don't contact him anymore. If you truly care about him you will do as he wishes.
2006-12-08 22:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by chieko 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just do the old ways send him letters by parcel if you know his home address to make contact with him tell him about how you feel .its up to him now if he accept it or not . important is you let him know about how you feel and close it move on.
2006-12-08 23:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by majo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that just happened to me, i found out she was thinking the same way, so when i talked to her, she didnt ice me, she actually talked to me and we made up!
2006-12-08 22:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by JP484848 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the bigger person n make the first step
2006-12-08 22:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋