Is my husband my soulmate?

Question

Me and my husband have been married for 2 years now with a 4 yearold son and a 2 yearold daughter. We argue over everything, sometimes I dont think we should of got married, what are some signs to see if he is my soulmate or not

Answer 1

Understanding the concept "soulmate". Yahooooo... things really are made in heaven!


Yes, every single individual living on Mother Earth has a partner in hiding... a soul mate that would practically match hundred percent with one! This has been a saying by people falling in love now and always. But this is also the truth. God made the destiny of mankind like that.

Suppose I am a boy born at number 43.045230345 (on the scale of hundred) amongst the billions of people living on Mother Earth. Then in all eventualities there would be many girls born at number 43. Whether I get to love and marry the girl of my choice is purely dependent upon my destiny which is a controversial subject (one can always take control of ones destiny if we truly desire so)!

Now, how do I find all girls at number 43...? This is where we falter... the numbering system of God being hidden from mankind... it becomes difficult to find the soul mate matching our choice and results in divorces, the divorce rate being abnormally high.

In the present materialistic trend one weighs the other from his finances, the bank balance, looks and alike. In the domain of God if we really want to search our soul mate... it may be hidden in the ugly frog for God may have cast a spell on it and unable to recognize one we marry the wrong girl! This is the irony of fate of most people the world over.

Those who can hear the sweet small voice coming from their heart... the voice of our soul (atman in Hinduism) such truthful people sometimes are able to recognize their soul mate. And it is then we learn that a Mira Bai has been born. Mira Bai was a faithful follower and lover of Lord Krishna even though Lord Krishna was married and had a wife.

The love of Mira Bai for Lord Krishna was unparalleled. It was much above the physical inhibitions expressed nowadays. For Mira Bai... sex had no role to play in the love she had for Lord Krishna. This is what pure love is all about! More on soul mate here- http://www.godrealized.org/truce_with_my_inner_self.html

Answer 2

Having kids is hard work and every couple will go through hard times. Don't give up on each other. It's amazing what a little counseling and talking to each other can work out. I really feel that too much emphasis is placed on the whole "soulmate" issue these days and people might be leaving a good person because they're worrying about something that might not really exist. The two of you deserve some time together alone somewhere for a weekend. Can you get your family or a friend to babysit for a weekend so you can get back to the old feelings you had? They're still there, you both just need to bring them back out again. Good luck and hang in there. Things will get better.

Answer 3

hi, quietgirl84

Signs, are always everywhere... You should know what to look for though, you 've been married for 2 years, you have a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter, but remember if you want to find dust, you will find dust.

I am not answering your question with judgement, your husband and you obviously got married for a reason (both of you know the reason). Times do get very hard, for two years are the beginning of times to come, times two, times two, then time will evolve into another dimension, which you and your husband will be totally blooming, happy and life could have been never better, then time will knock again, and because we are but only human, either you or your husband will bow to the knock and open the door, again, gliding into time, times and a half, again, it will be either you or your husband protesting, against the marriage.

Either he or she, and I should have listened to her and he should have done what they said, I should have... He shouldn't have... We should never have...

... And then time will knock again... the only difference is that my son is now 16 and my daughter is 14, and I still want answers, I just don't feel comfortable with him around, he has become, and i never was, but now I am, why, why, why???

... suddenly another knock on the door, he will not get it, I always did, and I suppose I always will... because I am the wife and he is the husband, irritating people wanting to do nothing but sell stupid "stuff"... Why am I putting up with this?

I love my husband, and he loves me, we got married because ...
life is wonderful and the world is very big, but you don't want to paint it ☺
(what are some signs to see if he is my soul mate or not)

1) Why did I marry him?.
2) Why do I love him?
3) Why did I even think of having his children?
4) why did he marry me?
5) What made him want to have children with me?
6) Do I want to divorce him after 8 months, or when the (lovely) children are big enough to understand?
7) Will the adorable children understand?
8) What will become of me (and the gorgeous children) after the divorce?
9) Will (the headless horseman) give me better?
10) Will anybody ever provide better for me and my children, better than my husband do?
11) Will anybody love my children better than their own father do?
12) Will OUR children ever be loved the way they are loved by their own MOTHER and FATHER?

a nice song for some encouragement (Cry to me - [the staccatos]...

Be Strong :-). It Really Aint That Bad, it gets better with (Time)- Trust me I been There...

Enjoy...
Lubstein

Answer 4

soulmate? Marriage isn't a fairytale, or something written in the stars. It's two people trying to make a life together. No two people are going to agree on everything all of the time. You two have two very young children and life with children is stressfull. Try different ways of working arguments out and communicating, and see what works best. Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree. If you two are willing to work things out, and have already gone through thick and thin with eachother, then you two are meant to be.

Answer 5

I think that's really a question that only you can truly answer for yourself. No one else knows the inner-workings of your mind and feelings better than you do. If you truly identified with him and 'connected' with him then you'd know it. The fact that you're fighting often doesn't preclude him from being your 'soulmate'. Arguments are a fact of life where marriage is concerned, some arguing is actually healthy.

You'll have to answer that 'soulmate' question for yourself truly in the end.

Answer 6

If you have to ask strangers, it's probably a no go on the soulmate thingy... Why do people on here whine about arguing with a husband blah, blah, blah... Either leave or deal with it. Leaving a loser is the best Christmas present you can give your kids.

Answer 7

There really isn't such thing as a soul mate.It is a romantic dream we all have. There are times in life when we have someone we connect with but we are all flawed humans and that connection is fleeting.

Get some counseling. Do some reading on how to communicate. Raising kids and dealing with life is busy and hectic. It takes an effort to have harmony in a relationship.

Answer 8

Maybe you and your (average) ok husband are just destined to have an (ok) average life.

By the way..why ask now? Are you still in high school?? You already have two kids with the man, why ruin the kids lives by separating? Do the right thing and MAKE IT WORK. Your lives aren't about each other anymore, stop being so selfish..your lives are about your children.

Answer 9

"Soul-mate" has been used way too much lately.

You and your husband are practically newlyweds with 2 young children.....that's hard for anybody.

If it's possible try to get into some couples therapy....you guys need someone to help you get on the right track.

Think of it like your relationship is sick and you need a doctor to make it better.....give it a try before you call it quits....and forget about that "soulmate cr*p".

Answer 10

I know people will disagree with me but I do believe in soulmates. It's a connection that's almost indescribable. If you have to ask for signs I think you've missed it.