What do you do or say when your husband calls to check up on you 10 times a day when he is at work?

Question

I think he is possesive and wants to know where I am all the time. Don't know what to do or say/ thanks!

Answer 1

yikes. I'm sorry, but you're dealing with a very insecure man. Have you given him reason to be that way? If not, then you need to put him in his place and let him know he's acting like a psyco.

I'm a married man, and believe me, something is wrong with that.

Answer 2

Has this been an ongoing problem or something that just started recently? Have you discussed with him why he is calling to check up on you? Is there anything in particular he is concerned about.

Normally a person that is possesive like this and questioning, is afraid of something or may actually be doing something he knows is wrong and thinks you may be doing it as well (like cheating). He may fear that you are cheating on him or he may be cheating on you and bringing this issue to the front by thinking that if he is doing it you are too.

Talk to him when he is at home during a time when it is quiet and you both are relaxed. Ask him what his fears are and what he thinks you may be doing. Tell him that you love him and that you aren't doing anything wrong. If he continues to call after your discussion, consider counseling to get to the root of the problem.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I would be shocked an amazed if my husband called me once from work let alone more than once... I guess I would say "Who are you and what have you done with my real husband?"

If my husband called multiple times per day just to check what I was doing and where I was I would hang up on him.... remove the phone from the cradle and let him get a busy signal...

Luckily my husband isn't so insecure that he feels the need to call me over and over... He only calls me when he gets bored at work... Luckily this isn't often..

Answer 4

Try phoning him 20 times a day and see how he likes a taste of his own medicine.

If my husband did that I would just get call display and not answer it, when he comes home and asks where I was, I would just say, oh did you phone? Sorry I must have been in the shower or the back yard etc... if he comes home when you don't answer to find you then he is a control freak, either accept it or don't its your call.

Answer 5

It sounds like he don't trust you. That is why he is making sure he knows where you are. Has he always done this? Or did it just start? If he hasn't been doing it long, then maby he cheated on you and now he thinks your gonna do it, so he is gonna keep close watch on you. I would just quit answering the phone. Tell him he is being foolish for calling all the time. He don't own you. But he should be able to trust you.

Answer 6

I say stop calling me, I'll talk to you when we're both home. I have a job I get paid to do it; I don't get paid to talk to you. I nipped that problem in the bud early. After the third phone call in one day I snapped, and he doesn't call now unless it's really important.

I have also had to tell the relatives of those who report to me to cut down on the calls. If you have a higher up you can blame try that.

Answer 7

I would make it clear, that even though he is my husband, that i will not stand for this. He does not own you and i would make it clear also that he is controlling, possessive and manipulating, calling you that many times while you are at work! I would tell him to back the he!! off or I am leaving--that should get the message across.

Answer 8

I have a friend like this he ended up belting his wife and she left He recently married again and started the same thing on his new wife she is younger and smarter now she checks up on him all day long if he is out why not try the same it seems to have worked on my friend she is now the domanearing one in the family.

Answer 9

Seriouly, 10 times a day? What happens if your answer isn't what he wants to hear? What does he say if you don't answer. You can't be home all the time. I don't like the sound of this.

Answer 10

Ask him why he's like that. Which, hopefully you already did. Calling you ten times a day? What does he do at work o.0