My daughters father visits her 1 hr a month and she gets so depressed, Would counseling for a 1 year old help?

Question

Regardless of age, children feel, even if it is just for a little and then forget. They are human and show every emotion that an adult would, maybe in just a different way. My daughters father abused me and acidentally hit her in the process and because of that DCF stepped in and he is court ordered to complete a task plan to prove it wont happen again, he is also court ordered to have no contact with her unless it is suppervised. I personally hate my little girls father, I AM NOT DEPRESSED! I only want what is best for her and I know it hurts her to see the person that was there every day for 6 months and then just disappeared for only 1 hour a month. You people who said children don't get depressed, you aparently know nothing about your own kids! I am beside myself as to some of the replys I have gotten. I was not putting myself out there to get attacked but to find some sort of help for my daughter. And him not seeing her is out of the question right now, he has rights unfortunately

Answer 1

i think counseling would be a very good ideal I'm a single dad to and my daughter is going though the same thing but she is acting out know and have a very bad temper and depress. but what i would do is stop the visit it not worth to put your daughter though the emotion and the depression for 1 hour a month she doesn't need to go though this. i know it going to be hard on her not seeing her dad but in time when she has more interested in her life like new friends or more activity in her life she well fell better about her self

Answer 2

How do you know she is depressed she can't tell you and she is too young to remember the length of time from one visit to the next. Are you making this up to find ammo on the dad? Children until the age of 3 live in the moment. You can show them a toy let them play with it take it away while they sleep and they will not think about it again until you show it to them again.They remember but do not understand the concept of time and how long it has been. They don't even know when Christmas eve or their birthday is if you don't remind them. I think maybe you want her to see Dad more and it is depressing you?

Answer 3

It probably wouldn't be the best idea for a 1 year old. The best thing would be for you and her father to talk and maybe figure something else out. An hour is not long enough for a daughter to see her father. I wish you the best with this and hope all gets figured out.

Answer 4

Its not the 1 year old that is depressed its you. You need counseling. Sorry but a 1 year old doesnt get depressed

Answer 5

How do you know when a 1 year old is depressed? There are child counselors, but the child has to be old enough to communicate with the counselor. Perhaps it would be best if you just distracted her from her depression with toys or food or cuddle time.

Answer 6

At 1, she doesnt even grasp the concept he is her dad, to her shes just someone who she sees once in a while, and there is no long term memory forming yet, she probably doesnt even remember him from one month to the next

Stop the problem before it starts. He needs to be in her life, or stay out of it completley.

Answer 7

why do you even let him do that to her he is obviously not worth having as a father i see my son 4 days a week cause i actually care

Answer 8

why is visitation only 1 hr? That's not enough time.

Answer 9

a one year old? DId she tell u she is depressed? Try baby Prozac. this is ridiculous.

Answer 10

it would help if you and her father went with her and a better schedule was worked out