My current boyfriend seems to be evading the topic. Does this mean that he doesn't want commitment?
2006-12-08 05:49:58 · 28 answers · asked by slly_rnld 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he keeps changing the topic and lies to u alot then he probably is not looking for commitment... if he doesnt tell u that he loves u then he probably doesn't..
2006-12-08 05:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men who aren't needy usually need time to assess the value of making a commitment. Men are also more alone in heartbreak than women. So, men take into account the risk of getting hurt to a much greater degree.
As a woman, you have a special sense of empathy (women's' intuition). If you can use use this "power" objectively, you can learn a great deal in a short time. You can understand his motives by examining his reactions to the things you say.
As a man I think I have enough experience to comment. I'd say he is not sure; you probably have done things to make commitment seem like a choice, not a prize. In other words you have taken the "thrill of the chase" away; you have forced the issue. I have been in that position, and it's not comfortable.
If you back off, for real, he should change his tune. Confusion almost always turns the tables. Make him feel that he had his "chance," and that it might no longer exist. That's your move.
2006-12-08 06:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's avoiding the question then yes he's afraid of commitment, not sure how long you have been with him but I would give him more time and if after a couple of months, nothing changes, you might want to consider the fact that he may never commit.
2006-12-08 05:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is evading it, he probably doesn't want it, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to get him to talk to you about it. The best thing to do is to just tell him you want to talk about your relationship, sit down, and really discuss it - make sure you are open to his feelings about commitment, maybe he's been hurt before and is trying to protect himself from being hurt again.
Good luck!
2006-12-08 05:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by TWBensgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't respond when the question about commitnent is being shoved down their throat. Questions like that should be asked before dating, so later on one partner doesn't get confused with knowing what you want, because they thought it was established when you first got to gether. Think about it!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-08 05:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we say the term "Arab", we gotta be more specific. I mean what country are you talking about, guys? Arab countries are so god damn different. They're even located in two different continents, so how can you judge all these countries with only one harsh opinion?!! You're just like any stupid Arab guy when he thinks that all the foreign women are whores which is not true. Most of the Arab guys reject the idea of having more than one wife. Maybe only the gulf-countries guys like to do that especially in Saudi Arabia. Those are the rich ones who like to marry women from all over the world just to fu** them, and for me, it's the women's fault. Why the hell did they agree to marry a guy without knowing him well just because he's rich?!!! I'm from Egypt. All the people there get married to only one lady. They love their wives, and they're devoted and caring husbands. P.S. I'm married to a Latina and if you ask my wife about me, she'll tell ya that I'm the best husband ever in the whole world.
2016-03-13 04:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls have a way of knowing that a man doesn't want commient.
2006-12-08 05:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is evading the topic, he doesn't want to commit! It doesn't take a genius to figure that out!
2006-12-08 05:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he at this time does not want to talk about it. take it as it is. how long have you two been together? i have someone telling me i don't know what commitment is and i was committed for 18 yrs he was never committed. so he does not know commitment if it stared him in the face. like i said ask one more time if no response well then you just got it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-08 06:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, men will more than know how to make this known if you are the one that they want and they are sure of it. If he evades, he probably either is not sure, or not interested. In either case, I would spend more time on my friends and myself and let him figure it out. That way you don't waste time on a relationship that might become one way
2006-12-08 05:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says either, "Baby...I think you got a great rack but I really don't want to me yo' man" or "Ooohh, I like boys AND girls...today I like girls, tomorrow, I'm not so sure. Whoopie look at my new seaquin shirt...It's just darling!!!"
Did he say either of those two things? If not, I wouldn't worry...
2006-12-08 05:53:05 · answer #11 · answered by xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋