i was with this guy for two years now and he cheated on me once with a girl for a whole year last year. i forgave him and tried to move on. he dumps her and tells me that he wants to start a life together and i am the only woman he wants to be with (since he has a history of being a playboy). I trust him but not completely (meaning with other women) he proposed and ask me to marry him twice and I never gave him an answer. but the other day he was telling me what house we should buy and what to name our kids. I go along with it cause i still care about him but honestly I dont want anything to do with him. I mean i forgave him and everything but my heart is not crazy about him anymore and I just want to move on in my life without him. I tried breaking up with him a few times and I was even nasty to him on the phone. one time i broke up with him, he said "fine i wont call anymore" but then send me a text hour later saying "i will not lose you we are not broken up". What do I do?
2006-12-08 05:36:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants the house and the picket fence and I really want out of the relationship. i dont want to get THAT serious anymore. how do i break it off gently?
2006-12-08 05:37:31 · update #1
There is no way to dump somebody (who loves you) gently. There is going to be pain, so get it over with. Don't get angry when he starts cursing and yelling. Just tell him the truth, that you don't love him anymore and leave.
Don't give him any pity sex when he comes begging for it in about a week and don't listen to him make excuses over the phone, that would just give him the hope that y'all can get back together. So make the break up Clean, because it can't be gentle.
2006-12-08 05:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everybody would be glad if there was a gentle way to dump a loved one,But the fact is there isnt any gentle way to dump.If he truely loves you,he will be hurt if you break off in a gentle or harsh way.He cheated on you for an entire year which doesnt sound healthy to me,,,neither will i suggest you to stay in this relationship.A cheat is always a cheat and it has caused a very deep pain to you,nothin on this whole wide world can actually pay for your tears that are priceless.
By forgiving him you have played your role truely well.I admire you for your kindness.But is this guy really worth your time,energy and emotions? its upto you to decide.I guess your heart has answered your question,i suggest you not to welcome pain back into your life,you have had enough of him.
You just listen to your heart.I totally agree why you dont wanna be with him and wanna move on in life without him.Do yourself a favour by walking past him.You deserve someone better who can give you all that love and care you desire.Someone who will always be there for you.God bless!
2006-12-08 05:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 23:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell that person how you feel. There is no way to dump someone gently. Love is love. A broken heart is a broken heart it is life and we must all deal with it at some point.
2006-12-08 05:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.
Sorry, there is no gently when it comes to breaking up. Just tell her the truth. He will have more respect for you if you do. So don't lie, don't sugar coat it, just be real with Him, and you never know......telling Him the truth about himself may get Him to change......some people don't realize what they are doing until someone else brings it to their attention. Good Luck!
2006-12-08 05:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this. There IS NO gentle way to do this. Just sit him down and tell him straight. Be honest. End it before he gets further into his delusions.
2006-12-08 05:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to be firm and not so gentle. Whatever you are telling him its not getting through to him so just tell him like it is......
It's not working out, I need more time, etc....and you both are very differen't from each other....he should get the message ..
2006-12-08 05:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why prolong the agony, just come out and tell him, you no longer want to see him!
2006-12-08 05:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Dante
2006-12-08 05:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋