I love my wife to pieces!!!!! I just want a more adventurous sex life. It is pretty much just mission style at this point. I fantasize about trying anal and other things. She seems to be satisfied with just the sama ole. Any suggestions?
2006-12-08 05:29:14 · 20 answers · asked by curious george 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
COMMUNICATION is the key...
She may have hang ups do to how she was raised or religion or whatever...you both need to discuss these issues...maybe try new positions slowly, 1 at a time until she's comfortable moving on to something new.
Regarding anal- look dude, it's not all that it's "cracked" up to be. If she's embarrassed to do other positions, do you really think she's going to let you put your penis somewhere where there's poop involved? No matter how clean you get the area, there's gonna be SOMETHING left over. Plus, it can be very painful and if you're not very, very gentle- you can do damage to the area. Don't let the gay guys tell you otherwise because that not the only form of sex they have- not by a long shot!
2006-12-08 05:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tip: there are stages between missionary only and anal.
Try smaller steps. There are people who won't do oral or anal, but I really haven't heard of someone who will have missionary sex but absolutely refuses sex in any other position.
Go get her, take her to the bedroom, and have sex in a new position.
Or go down on her.
Then try other positions. That should keep you busy for a while :p
2006-12-08 15:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her outside of the bedroom. Tell her that you would like to try new positions and new things. See what she would be willing to do, and what she wouldn't. Once you've got an idea about her limitations, try out what is safe the next time you have sex.
Communication is always the key. She isn't a mind reader any more than you are. You may find that once you've talked to her, she's just as bored as you are, and looking for something new.
2006-12-08 13:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her some things you're interested in that aren't too crazy, like a new position to start. After that, slowly start introducing her to other things. I would definitely start off slowly, don't try to much at once. And let her know that you love her and you're very turned on by her body. Help her be more confident in herself. For Christmas, give her a giftcard to Victoria's Secret or a subscription to Cosmopolitan (they always have new ideas for spicing it up in the bedroom). Good Luck.
2006-12-08 13:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a Kama Sutra book for xmas and ask her to pick a position out to try. Give her the chance to express what she wants to try and then comment on how great it was. Woman love compliments so if you compliment her more when she tries new things it will encourage her to try other things more often. Remember happy wife happy life!
2006-12-08 13:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a game called "poker for lovers" it's fun, and the chips are little "sexual pleasures" but the best thing is.. .she would get to choose her level of riskyness.. her comfortability level.
You could also try a site like slumberparties.com and let her choose a couple things....anything from romance, to massage, to lingerie.... nothing raunchy about the site, and no one would have to know... order from the privacy of your home.
Just some thoughts to help you out.
2006-12-08 14:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by AmberLeigh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should attempt new positions with your Honey and make her see and feel the differences in each one. Anal is out of the question until you can achieve her trust.
2006-12-08 13:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by supressdesires 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be completely honest about this when talking to your wife. Make sure that you tell her how much you love her and your sex life, and that you're looking to make it more exciting. The number one rule when making suggestions about sexual issues, is to make 100% sure that your partner is completely comfortable with it. Good luck!
2006-12-08 13:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her what all you would like to do to her. See if that sparks up an interest. If not find something that
REALLY gets her turned on and then see if she would be interested in trying something different. I always say, you never know unless you try.
2006-12-08 17:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by anvia619 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, talk to her and go into the adult video store and you and your wife watch the movies together and explain what you want from each other to make your sex life better....
2006-12-08 15:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋