why are there so many deadbeat husbands and dads?

Question

where are all the real men? what happened? is it because their fathers didnt know how to be husbands and fathers themselves??

Answer 1

Why are there so many deadbeat husbands and dads?
Some are lazy, some are selfish, some are tried of sending money and the ex-wife sending it on herself(I've seen a friend of my wife do this).

The truth is women and men are form each others behavior. If women had a zero tolerance to "Jerks" then men would stop being jerks and if men would have a zero tolerance to women nagging then women will stop nagging. Men and Women do what they can get away with. If you want that behavior to change then you have to change your own behavior.

So the truth is the root of the problem to men is women and the root of problem to women is men.

Answer 2

It's probably how their mothers raised them.

On a more serious note, it could be the lack of a good father.

Yet I never knew my father and I'm certainly not a deadbeat, so it's not an automatic thing.

Perhaps it's a character issue.

Or, maybe they don't believe they should have to support a child they are not allowed to see on a daily basis.

Being a divorced dad, I can certainly understand why many men resent child support. Mom can cheat and still get the kids and still be benefiting financially from a faithful husband she doesn't want anymore.

This is more of a rant than an answer.

Answer 3

Ok, you really want to know??? You know my father was very very deadbeat father to me and never had nothing to do with me. Also I never ever want to be like him. I change my life to be a great husband and father. I am glad I did and guess what it only kids that need to change not the father to change.

Reason why Father never change so Kids can. I am now making myself much better dad and husband and my kids love me so much and I so glad I changed if I didn't change I would have what I have now. smiling.

So Real Men can change but some don't so therefore they rather to be like their dad. Not me. He saw me last time and knowing that I will never be like my deadbeat father. He was shocked and I way better than him.

Smiling.

Answer 4

Their are a few good dad's out there. You can't blame most of their fathers. My Dad had a wonderful Father and he grew up to be a jerk. My husband now is a wonderfull Dad. I don't know what makes Dad's and Mom's be deadbeats, but I do know all you can do is love your children and love the parent that raised you. Whether or not you had a Dad hopefully you turned out allright. I know my children did and their Dad is the KING of deadbeats!!!!!

Answer 5

some men are just not mature enough to raise a child. some women arent' mature enough to keep their legs closed if they both dont' have a condom. they are too uneducated about condoms or safe sex, either or. no discipline leads to a baby popping out of her and him either leaving six months she has it because he can't stand her while she's pregnant or cheats on her for not getting any, or he leaves six months later because he just wants out/feels trapped, or countless other excuses, but basically he's just not mature enough to take on the responsibility. He probably never even took child rearing classes, which I'm gonna take before I have a baby in order to be prepared. but it goes both ways, some women are so insecure that they think having a baby will make him stay, as well as some dumb@$$ men. well, in the end, the only one that gets hurt is the child and I'll be damned if that happens to my child.

I dont' have kids for a reason, I'm not ready to give up being a bachelor just yet. I want to collect notches sure, but I'm safe, even when things get too heavy I have to have a condom. I had my health classes when in high school and it scared the bejesus out of me(ever seen photos of people syphllis, whoa!!)

I'd like to think that I'll get to know a woman well enough to tolerate her imperfections because we are not perfect. I'll go to marriage counseling if I have to with her and work things out. being in a relationship is hard work as it is, imagine being married and having a child!!!!

Answer 6

There are so many possible factors; Poor family values, Society, drug abuse. I think a good A$$ wop-en by their parents every now and again may have helped. My parents whipped my butt growing up. Heck not only do I pay child support for my biological daughter but also her child, my step son. Oh and I'm not just a pay check like some dads I know and heard about. I also attend their school functions.

Answer 7

Bitetr are we? Why are there so many women that turned into non sexual roomates and then were "devastated" when he cheated and then complain why he is a deadbeat dad after the court ordered something that she knew he can not pay.

This is not my story but the story of many.

I have never been divorced or cheated but I have seen this play out this way many times.

Answer 8

my kids have a deadbeat father and he dont care about the kids he has not for over 25yrs now,so what should we do about deadbeat dads and deadbeats husbands, i wish we could fined a good husbands or a good dad for kids and a good husband for woman!!!!

Answer 9

There are lots of good decent men out there. I think the environment they are raised has a lot of impact on what type husband/father they will be.

Answer 10

No, it's the women in their lives. The women are the problem, they are in love. The men were in love but want to still act like they are single. They get away with it because you let them. They cheat on you, lie to you, but you won't leave because you love them. You think they will change, (they won't) or now you have kids, and don't want to break up the family. Some men know this and will do as they please because they know you won't leave.