should i get a suregate mother?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been together for 3yrs and we love each other we have bought properties together and he is great. but he wants to have a child, i have a 15th and 16yr old, and at time i wonder if i should start over, and i can not have kids, he said the only way we will get married is by having a kid i dont want to get married and if the suregate mother does not work then we get divorce what should i do? i do love him and i really love kids. & i dont mind having another child.

i am 37yrs and he is 42

i do want to marrie him. and he will marrie me before we do the suragate mother. but if it does not work then what? then we get divorce? should i go through that?

Answer 1

Um, I'm afraid that I don't quite understand our question. If youdon't want to get married and he says that y'all won't get married unless you have a kid, then that says it all right there.

Answer 2

I don't know of any surrogate mother who would have a child for an unmarried couple, specially one where the would be father refused to be married only after having a child. I don't think you have much luck going for you on this one. If he only wants to get married after having a child with you then something is wrong with him, why put the cart before the horse?

Answer 3

If he's giving you an ultimatum, then he musnt love you as much as he says he does (I hate to say this without knowing your situation, but if this were to happen to me I wouldnt take the ultimatum). With that being said, when my mom had my little brother, my older sister was 21 yrs old and I was 18yrs old. We are now 27, 23, 18, 15, and 6 yrs old and let me tell you that my baby brother is the light of our family. He has kept us more united than ever before. I dont know what would be of my family without him.