How do you Deal with Rude Inlaws/Out laws?

Question

I have the worst inlaws ever I swear!!
My mother in law says that I don't cook and clean properly!
She is such a Pac Rat she keeps ever box for everthing she ever buys.
I am serious she has empty boxes from 1995. 10 years now Come on Now!!
My father in law doesn't like pictures being hung on walls or painting!
I will give you a prime example
We were living in this one house that was painted a Khaki green color and he didn't like it and he said that they ruined it by painting it and that the depreciated it's value by like $$20,000. I didn't agree with him!!
The other day they came to my house and I had all my Christmas decortions out and they were giving me crap in my own house for hanging up things and putting a few tacs in the wall to hang things up They were like why do you have to do that why are you making holes in your walls
I lost it and I told them I was in the Christmas spirit and I refuse to live in a Hospital with white walls and nothing on them
I have not and do

plan on apologiaing for loosing my temper!
Should I feel bad for telling them that?
How would you have dealt with the situation?

Answer 1

Tell your father-inlaw that there are products on the market that take care of holes in the walls nowadays.

You don't have the worst inlaws ever just annoying ones. Unless you can top my mother-inlaw (whom was known as the town-whore before she moved) .... Or my step-mother inlaw that has trimmed her nails with nail clippers in a dining establishment.....

Just be happy that they eventually go home. And talk to your hubby about if he has brothers/sisters taking care of them when they get too old in age. ( I refuse to ever have my inlaws move in with us)

Answer 2

Good for you! Your inlaws are extremely rude and boorish. It's your house and you and your spouse set the rules in your home. It sounds like your inlaws have some problems respecting personal boundaries. Keep standing up to them and don't give and inch when it comes to running your own home and raising your own family. Tell them that you think they are rude and that you wish they would stop being such negative nags. Direct confrontation with people like them is the best way. Do it calmy though, since it will be more effective that way. Don't let stuff brew until you blow up again. Set them straight every time they step out of bounds and into places you think they have no business going. I've dealt with several controlling people in my life and I learned a lot about dealing with such people.

Answer 3

If it is your house, you have the right to do whatever you want to it. I think you should stand up for yourself and don't let them run all over you. I would have had to do the same thing. Let them know it is your house and you will run the way you see fit. That is what I did to mine. Noone will come into my house and tell me what I can and can't do. If they don't like what I have done then they can leave. Have a good day!

Answer 4

I WISH my situation was as 'good' as like Everybody Loves Raymond!! MY wife's father is a total scumbag. He smokes weed all the time, flirts with my sister and now he's drinking again! He is constantly jobless and homeless and mooches off of people, and always blames someone else for what he is. He has continued trying to break us up for over 2 years and he even introduced her to guys, hoping she'd leave me! He is abusive and typically argues and yells at her and gets her all upset and hysterical. This is how he behaved last Cristmas and my wife hid crying in a bathroom until I made him leave. He is manipulative and menacing with a rotten temper. He abandoned her as a child and she ended up in jail as a teenager and HE killed his own father! This man is a rotten, stinking loser and now he's homeless AGAIN. He's asked her if he can stay here "for a couple of days." I said, HELL NO!!! And I do NOT feel guilty about this. He always badmouths me to my wife and tries minimizing our relationship because he's jealous. I don't appreciate him creating conflicts and manipulating my wife. He's a bull in a china shop and I don't want it in here. He can run his mouth somewhere else - I don't care where as long as it's not here.

Answer 5

My general rule of thumb is if their older than you respect them and if they are younger than you demand the respect. However in this particular situation its unique and it doesnt look like you overstepped your boundaries. I would be sorry when I discuss the argument with them but not perform an apology.
On a personal note, I believe the decline in society is due to the lack of respect for elders. This is due to parents not teaching their kids to respect them in a fashion that was true decades ago.
Back to what we were talking about; basically I think you should stand your ground. But be respectful.

Answer 6

Absolutely do not apologise, instead give them the opportunity to ask for forgiveness. At times acting a little nutty is the best cure for nutjobs like your inlaws.

Merry Christmas and a happy new year.

Answer 7

You should appoligize. But so should they. Hopefully they got the message that they crossed the line.
My advice for a peaceful life is to try and bite your tongue. Who cares if your crotchetty old father in law hates khaki on houses.
Just one question. Why is your spouse not standing up for you?

Answer 8

this is almost exactly like Everybody Loves Raymond. my inlaws act the exact same way! it drives me crazy! it is our life and not theirs. i would just cut off contact with them. that is what i did with them. they were jealous of me and my family(they had no family and a really poor life) so they use to treat me worse than anybody. anyways, we cut off contact with them and life has been so much easier. they dont think that their grown up child to be with someone that they dont approve. that is why they are so nit picky. they dont like the fact that you guys are married, and happy, and have a life of your own. you need to lay down the rules, tell them that you dont appreicate how they treat you and if they continue, they will have no part in your life. trust me it worked for me. they choose not to and we live seperate lives,(and we live next door). life goes on, we all wish we had very good inlaws, but we have to do the best we can. good luck!

Answer 9

sounds like you have a serious dilemma. what you need to do is simple but takes a little planning: 1. buy a big *** crow bar. 2. jump them on the way to their car one night and bash in their heads. 3. drag their unconscious bodies and stuff them in your trunk. you should stock up on oxicotin and get them completely fuc ked up. then start slow torture. start by drilling 4 holes in the father's dick and letting him piss in al different directions. then shove a porcupine up the mother's vagine and let the fun begin. after about 5 hours of pain, drop a ****** cinder block on their heads and burn the bodies. there will be no evidence and no more in-laws! have fun and keep it secret

Answer 10

Only apoligise for the way u said it and make it clear that wat u said still stands. Tell them dont come to my house and dictate to me on how i choose to live my life and then we will get along fine.