Hes nice looking, not just saying that cuz hes my son, looks like jay in jay and silent bob. he has a good job, hes not gay. just very shy and doesn't like people to much. has had a ruff life and resents alot of stuff and holds it all in. has a good personality, is fun when he does do stuff, i want him to find a girlfriend without my help cuz he'd kill me if he knew i was even doing this. Please help, hes a cool guy and I want him to be happy.
2006-12-07 08:07:31 · 24 answers · asked by GOOCHER13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u cant rush him....he got to find da person he feels he can picture himself wit....let him hav some tym..now u wouldnt want him to make a bad choice would u?
2006-12-07 08:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ree Ree 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to let him live his life his way. There's nothing you can do to push him out into the world. He apparently has some issues to deal with before he should be getting into a relationship anyway (doesn't like people too much-had a rough life and holds resentment). Just leave him alone and he will find the right person for him on his own. Just because you find him a girlfriend doesn't mean he'll be happy. He needs to be happy with himself first.
2006-12-07 08:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gonna have to figure this out on his own. And I'm sure he will. Trying to force a shy son to go out and find a girlfriend will probably result in him being resentful that you're adding to the pressure he already feels about not knowing how to find a gf.
2006-12-07 08:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not gay cause you say he's not gay? I'm just wondering cuz you seem to be too interested in your 19 year old son's life. Maybe he has a chick on the side he doesnt want you to know about...or a dude on the side.
Whatever the reason, I think it is his business and not yours.
2006-12-07 08:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by Natnic27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't be worrying about it at all. This is the wrong way to go about it. It's not his mom's job to find him a girlfriend, it's his own. Friends can also help with this. Just not parents.
2006-12-07 08:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by James Dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has friends tell him to go out with his friends trust me females sometimes love a man that is shy but he has to open up to her and if he starts off to that relationship then she might break the shell and if she tells him that she is there for him he will find comfort and open up don't worry he will come around i wish i had a man like that im only 17 finna graduate from high school this year email me if you need anymore advice at sexybama2005@yahoo.com
2006-12-07 08:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force something like that without offending him. He'll eventually come out of his shell. Sounds to me like he needs to be out of the house more often with his friends. That's how I used to meet a lot of girls. All you can do is love him for who he is hope for the best. It'll come eventually. Orrrrrr, you could bribe him. Set up a date with a willing participant and offer to pay him. On second thought, that might be a bad ideal. If he ends up liking her and she finds out he got paid to date her, it'd all blow up in his face.
2006-12-07 08:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show disapproval of any girl he might checkout or such, if he's a resentful person the more you push the more he'll push back. So reverse on him and he might just do what you want him to do.
2006-12-07 08:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by slyshewolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a porno 4 christmas and leave a note saying "u can be doing this stuff 2 u know?"
2006-12-07 08:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by Macho man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your a little to worried about him getting a girl friend. He may not want to get one because you are bugging him about it. It will all happen in its own time. You should just be patient and don't rush him into something you want for him and he doesn't want for himself yet.
2006-12-07 08:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by ~College Lovin~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll find a special person in his own time. I'm no big player myself, but maybe he likes his privacy and values his time. Or he's not dating just to spite you. My adice is give him time he'll come around.
2006-12-07 08:10:55 · answer #11 · answered by Rj7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋