To not want to have sex with his wife?or have a really low sex drive? I have been married 2 1/2 years and my husband and i have only had sex 10 maybe 11 times . I feel very sextually frustrated and dont understand what it could be?I have kept my figure exactly the same as when we met if not better. I take care of myself and am always there for him when he needs me.I even cater to him when he is home nothing gets his attention not even me doing the house work/cooking in sexy under wear or naked i tried that and he told me to put my clothing back on.When i asked him he just said he is just not into sex!
2006-12-07 06:24:10 · 29 answers · asked by Kelly W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I took advise from an ex.,bf and friend and he said to back off for a little while but now its been 4 months and still no sex?My ex.bf said he thinks i am very pretty and while i was with him 5 yrs ago i was good in bed as well as creative so he has no idea whats wrong?
2006-12-07 06:27:27 · update #1
He was a virgin before we got married!!!was very religous and wanted to wait.I however was not a virgin but waited out of respect for him.
2006-12-07 06:34:58 · update #2
He has little stress and is very laid back
2006-12-07 06:37:47 · update #3
We need to trade husbands...I posted a question about my husbands sex drive being too much.....On a serious note maybe you guys should try talking to a physician to see if it is something medicaly wrong with him. I wouldn't worry that it is you cause any man with a normal sex drive would have sex way more than that so I doubt very much that it is you. Something is going on woth him emotionally or medicaly that needs to be checked out.
2006-12-07 06:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that something is going on somewhere. I am sure you have expressed your feelings about this to him and I am sorry that he is inconsiderate and selfish and not giving you the love and attention you deserve.
I once was going through this sort of thing and ask my father the same question and he said that if a man isn't getting it at least one within a two week period at the most then he's probably getting it somewhere else, and well it was truth for my situation...
Although he could have some type of sexually mental or physical problem...
Why are you decussing this with the ex bf? Are you about or have you taken the interest to him to fullfill the need for sex - Don't answer it doesn't matter but if you have your husband may have found out or suspects and no longer cares about having sex with you...
Talk to him get to the bottom of it, it may be time to move on... If he doesn't want to talk about it then tell him you're going to someone else to take care of the problem b/c he won't take care of it and it is his job! Just get his reaction and go from there maybe he is bi or has a male lover you just never know!!!
Good luck, hope all turns out well for you!
2006-12-07 06:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is the rest of your relationship? If you are nagging, bossy or maybe with out even knowing it emasculating. I went through the same thing with my wife. Men don't talk about their problems it's just the way we are and the more pressure you put on him the less he will respond. Try asking him what the real problem is. Do you have kids? That just makes it worst.
Try asking him what his sexual fantasy is and then giving it to him if you can.
If that doesn't work make an appointment with a marriage counselor and telling him that you will be going and want him to go too. Don't argue about it just tell him that it’s important to the future of your relationship and that you hope he’s their with you.
Believe it or not barring any physical problems it is usually underling issues that cause problems like this.
Dump the x boy freind thats not going to help and may give him a reason to blame his problems on. The x is like a vulture just wait for the remains of your failed relationship.
Hope it helps.
You can email me if you want.
2006-12-07 06:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by lowdowndirtyfool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do have low sex drives and there is little you can do to improve that. You have few options. 1. if a healthy sex life is that importamt and you have exhausted all efforts to make it better, you could leave him. 2. just deal with it and be unsatisfied, or 3, take on a bed buddy thats in the same situation. (what city do u live in?) : )
2006-12-07 06:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by Rob W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a question like this where a husband was found out to be gay. Anyway maybe he doesnt have a sex drive because there isnt enough hormone. Talk to him about going to the doctor and seeing what the problem is. Its not unusual for a man to have low sex drive.
2006-12-07 06:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two questions here.
1. Did he have any sex drive before you got married?
2. Did you two ever speak about sex while dating?
If he did not have much of a sex drive before you got married, expecting him to change after marriage is a mistake.
If you did not speak of sex before getting married then you can expect sex to be of low importance. That also is unfortunate because you would have known that he has a low sex drive.
It is not that uncommon for people to have low sex drive. A woman that I know from Church was telling my wife and I that both she and her husband have low sex drive.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-07 06:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried. It could be 1 of 3 things. a) he's cheating on you b) he's gay or c) he's asexual (very low or non existent sex drive). Before you were married, was there more sex? If so, I would think he's cheating on you. If there wasn't much sex, then it could be the other two things. You need to explain to him that sex is a form of intimacy. If he doesn't consider your feelings, you need to think about how important sex is to you. Couples counseling wouldn't hurt either. Don't blame yourself... it's not you. You've done your part, it's his turn.
2006-12-07 06:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 6 1/2 years now, in the least two years our sex drive has vanished, i dont even know why. my hubby has low sex drive, we usually do it once a week or once every 10 days or so. i hate it. He has cheated three times on me or more. He has said sex with the same person gets old. Spice it up.
2006-12-07 06:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Husband Issuses?
2016-08-09 11:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what is going on? Could be that stress from somewhere is causing him problems, it could also be be a health concern like high blood pressure, again tied to stress. First thins would be is to get him to indersatnd your concern and then make an appointment to the Doctor. Like everything else fix the least expensive option first.
2006-12-07 06:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by J.C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋