Why do women feel they must, change, possess, bicker, rant, rave us men? Are you not happy with your ownselves that you have to come and try to screw us men up?
2006-12-07 05:33:08 · 20 answers · asked by Boogieman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Finally....there are a couple of honest females scroll down......thank you ladies...First off: I am not in a relationship with this gal....just trying to figure out why she is still the way she is when we departed in our relationship.....I got spine no doubt....she hates i am hard headed and won't change for her likes...I REFUSE!!! Lot of you are right....try changin = Goodbye! that's what I did 9 years ago.....but yet still try to maintain a friendship but she just won't quit all the other crap....
2006-12-07 06:22:48 · update #1
Finally....there are a couple of honest females scroll down......thank you ladies...First off: I am not in a relationship with this gal....just trying to figure out why she is still the way she is when we departed in our relationship.....I got spine no doubt....she hates i am hard headed and won't change for her likes...I REFUSE!!! Lot of you are right....try changin = Goodbye! that's what I did 9 years ago.....but yet still try to maintain a friendship but she just won't quit all the other crap....we prolly just need to stay away from each other....and oh yeah she is a older gown up woman.......11 years my senior!
2006-12-07 06:25:25 · update #2
Finally....there are a couple of honest females scroll down......thank you ladies...First off: I am not in a relationship with this gal....just trying to figure out why she is still the way she is when we departed in our relationship.....I got spine no doubt....she hates i am hard headed and won't change for her likes...I REFUSE!!! Lot of you are right....try changin = Goodbye! that's what I did 9 years ago.....but yet still try to maintain a friendship but she just won't quit all the other crap....we prolly just need to stay away from each other....and oh yeah she is a older gown up woman.......11 years my senior!
2006-12-07 06:26:27 · update #3
I tried to change a man once.. he started out sweet and caring.. as the months past he turned into an extreme jerk, I thought I had done something wrong or I could change him back to the person I first knew.. but the sad truth was he was putting on a show before and he just really was a jerk.. no changing that. I agree that you can't change people if you don't like it, its time to move on.
2006-12-07 05:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some Men or Women need to be changed. I don't believe in serious changes to someones personality, opinions etc. However, I do think that there are some traits that we find unattractive - such as being untidy, forgetful, childish etc. and feel it is necessary for you to change these behaviours. As for women being possesive etc - it doubles over for men also. You obviously had a fight with a woman that is trying to change you, The thing is that if she wants you to change your behavior (being childish) it's for a good reason - maybe she feels that you need to change in order to be a productive member of society or a better spouse. If she wants you to change your stance on let's say abortion - and she is persistant and determined to change your mind - then I understand. She's frustrating you and forcing you to push away from her. Like I said - it goes both ways. Personally, I believe you can't really do any serious change to another person - I think that I can only influence someone to make a change. The choice to change or not lies with the sole individual - no matter how much a male or female rants or raves. I've been with my husband and have not tried to change him - yes there are traits I do not like i.e. he's childish - but I cannot change him. He has to want to grow up. I simply asked that acted like a kid when it was appropriate- It was a request - not a demand and he accepted. We have a wonderful relationship and I cannot change him no matter how hard I try. Either way - I love the way God made him.
2006-12-07 05:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with whether a woman is happy with herself, it has everythign to do with her having the "Prince Charming" she has dreamed about all her life.
She likes you well enough, but may see some things in you that you don't. You may like the way you dress, act, whatever. But, she is only trying to fulfill a fantasy. Besides that, she is only trying to make you a little better.
No matter what woman you are with, she will try to change some facet about you. It is just a fact of life, and unfortuantely, we men have to roll with the punches. Especially if we are really into the woman we are with.
If it bothers you that much, get out of the relationship. No sense in harboring hard feelings because you don't want to change.
We all see ourselves as perfect, because no one has come along and pointed out that we are not. That is all she is trying to do. make you more perfect.
Good luck
2006-12-07 05:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times we don't mean to, we get romance and such on the mind and just think about ourselves. Other times we get it stuck in our heads that life is just a game, and so are guys. And even other times... we just have a very large case of PMS. Yeah. I'm a female that bashes females, and that's because I know how cruel we can be and a lot of times we don't mean to. Another problem is stupid romance books that some women read. Then they either start looking for the perfect man (which u know as well as I do that no one is perfect) or they try to change the one they're with to fit their standards. I'm pretty much w/ bux_martinfan on this one. listen to him.
2006-12-07 05:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by sah123190 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in common words Jewish adult males had to be circumcised - and this became done as a demonstration and a emblem, no longer because some thing became incorrect with their genitals, yet extra or a lot less a demonstration that interior the most intimate area of a guy's body, he became recognizing a covenant became made with God. style of like a tattoo. Christians trust in what's called "a circumcision of the coronary heart." This symbolizes a slicing away of the evil and damaging motives of your coronary heart (your maximum inner area of your being) with a view to stay a sparkling life for God - this isn't a circumcision done with a knife and human fingers, yet a replace that takes position in a unmarried's being by following Christ.
2016-11-24 21:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh how I wish this ended...
As I have had to answer so many times before, this is not a girl thing. Rather it is a human thing. Humans are rarely satisfied with another person to 100%. Why? We are all different. This is life, and yet few people can deal with that.
On the reverse side though, having relationships can better us as people. Most of the time we are unwilling to make changes in our life to better ourselves, and it can take someone who loves us to help us along. It is one thing to change someone's personality, but to help them through a problem, that is love.
2006-12-07 05:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by bane10x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that many women fall in love with a man's potential, rather than accepting him for who he is now.
Much of this could be avoided if they would just make a better choice for themselves when they meet the man. They could quickly realize that it is not a good matching from the start and stop trying to change him!
2006-12-07 05:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Singthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a girl is constantly telling you how to dress and act and what to like or dislike then move on because she is only trying to mold you into her idea of a perfect man...People change together in a relationship if they care about each other, its not a bad thing.
2006-12-07 05:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by georgiabelle87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What women are you seeing, for God's sake? Grown-up mature, self respecting women with their own lives don't change men, or even try. They find one that suits them and then appreciate the hell out of him.
You must just be in the wrong hunting grounds, my dear. I get the feeling something really rotten went on at your house in the very recent past.
2006-12-07 05:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women look at us men as a ball of clay. They can mold and shape us up in anyway they want. And the sad part is some men let them do it.
2006-12-07 05:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by snowhawk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋