I am a hispanic woman married to a black man. I found out about 7 years ago that my husband has a foot fetish (tickling). I have noticed all the sites he looks at are of white women. When we are out he is always looking at white women's feet. I feel like he should have married a white women. I think he married me because I am in between. I don't look white, but I can pass for black. This has really bothered me and I have asked him about it. He has denied that it is only white women he desires. But he has failed to prove me otherwise. Can someone help me understand? I know it may sound silly but I am very self-conscious about it.
2006-12-07 04:58:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My god we men are *so* screwed up when it comes to sex.
Now listen - we separate our fetish sex from our wife sex. Women can't - we can.
But he doesn't know - he has no clue - how much this hurts your feelings.
You have to just say, "Look. I don't get the tickling white women's feet thing as sex. I never will. But you do it so much that I think... " and then keep it short but tell him what you said here about why you think was *one* reason he might have married you. And that it makes you very insecure about the relationship - sometimes just because your feet aren't the right color for crying out loud.
Have him address the color/marriage issue, and then work out with him some kind of balance about sex and feet and white chicks - maybe 3 visits to a tickle site a week or something you can both live with so it's not like all he does when he obviously has this very caring willing woman sitting right next to him. Perhaps explore some other non-white woman fun games together in bed, too!
2006-12-07 05:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
White Women Feet
2016-12-17 13:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I am a hispanic woman married to a black man. I found out about 7 years ago that my husband has a foot fetish (tickling). I have noticed all the sites he looks at are of white women. When we are out he is always looking at white women's feet. I feel like he should have married a white...
2015-08-06 15:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Pei 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Black Women With Pretty Feet
2016-10-04 06:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to laugh, because you sound really serious about this. Just take him to a therapist or someone who can find out why he has a fetish for white women feet. Also, let him play with your feet, or keep him busy doing other things, like activities you like to do. Get him involved in your daily reutines. Don't be bothered too much, at least he isn't cheating.
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2006-12-07 05:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I feel for you. I think we all have things we are insecure about. There is obviously something about you he really likes. You should ask him these things and work on letting them shine. My husband loves looking at thin women. and I am anything but this. I know he loves me though and I can lose weight. As for white women's feet, I am white and I was blessed with small evenly proportioned feet, Not to insult anyone!!! But most women of other races do not have pretty feet. Sorry, like I said I don't mean to insult just an observation. Some white people have hammer feet too.
2006-12-07 05:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Coming from a black man in london,, and this is no offense intended because those tootsies maybe beautiful.
trip down to the pedi shop, then Ann Summers (or american counterpart) for some sleek stockings or sexi outfit even maybe knee high socks ( just be out there, he is your husband after all what happened to being spontaneous lol) preferably 1 that shows of and expresses the female ***/leg/feet. (don't let onto him about this btw... surprise time) and then pick a night he is unaware of to use your dominant head :) u'll find alot of guys who like feet like a women who can show them a thing or 2, .
or even like a comment before pedicure them in-front of him on the rare occasion just to keep him wanting x
this will get his pulse racing and only thinking of your pair hopefully. the trick is to let him have a little from time to time lol it will do his brain in x
heyyy lol it would work for me :)
If this is fail,, I think then it is time to sign those get out papers
2014-07-06 23:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Your husband loves you I'm sure. He just likes looking at things he knows he cant have! Maybe its not all feet, but the nice painted ones that are on a white woman. Maybe he just likes to look in genaral. I my self love feet I always look at feet. On men woman and children,. It dont mean I want the woman and want to take um home. i just like to look! hope I helped. Dont sweat the small stuff!
2006-12-07 05:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I have no idea what to tell you because I am a white woman. However, I can tell you that almost all of the white women I know have nasty feet. In the real world, a lot of white women don't take care of their feet. I would try getting a foot make-over if I were you. Put on nail polish, etc. Go get your feet pampered at a nail salon. Then, lotion them up or better yet, let him lotion them up. Prove to him that your feet are the best ones out there and make an effort to flaunt them in front of him.
2006-12-07 05:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Kristen H 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Most likely he has a problem and if you don't let him know out right that it bugs you than you'll never truly be happy. Do know that you may never be able to cure his little fetish. Atleast you would have attempted. (><)
2006-12-07 05:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by kathy e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋