My parents just saw a girl for me and afterwards I went to see her. I liked her and she likes me. She says yes about marriage. When my parents compared janmakshar, we have same nadi. Can you please give me your opininon about believing this stuff or not?
2006-12-06 06:54:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You Indians have some strange marriage customs. In America, we don't know (and don't care) what "janmakshar" or "nadi" are. If you like each other, get to know each other better. If, after several months, you both come to the point where you realize you love each other and that you are compatible, then get married.
2006-12-06 06:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm an Asian Indian American woman I have no idea what janmakshar or nadi are but I think u should seriously talk to this girl and if after hanging out and getting to know one another you guys realize that you connect with one another then get married if not move on with your life.
Y do Indian parents do this to their children it's pointless and stressful. Thank God my parents would never even think about doing this to me I'm glad they were raised in the U.S. they know that arranged marriages can be very risky. I mean the person you marry can be lying about everything just to look good in your eyes then your completely screwed with your marriage.
Well good luck with whatever you end up doing. The only person who can really decide what you want is you. Don't worry about your parents, her parents, or anyone else it's between you and her only. If your parents love you, which I'm sure they do then they will come around no matter what you decide to do. Life's too short dude, either you live your own life or someone will live it for you. Sorry this was kind of long, but it's a really heated topic for me lol.
Best wishes,
Nav
2006-12-07 02:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give too much importance to those customs. If you both are liking each other then go ahead and marry. I am sure there will be a remedy to that nadi problem.
Looking at so many questions of marital incompatibility tells us that irrespective of "janmakshar" or "nadi", your marriage can have rough patches. So be prepared to ride out the roughs with love and understanding. Solve your problems with intelligence and creativity.
Best of luck for a happy wedding. May God bless both of you.
2006-12-07 11:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your is a arrange marriage so all this is possible, at best it is an interpretation of many thing with lots of if but and whatever in between but, same Nadi is Ok.
It does not matter who believes in it, if you do not believe in it at least your parents do so be happy that they do have your only interest on mind.
Have joy rid on a white horse and have fun, enjoy it.
2006-12-06 15:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that irrespective of culture and belief, attraction and liking are more important. But as you come from an orthodox Indian family, I'd suggest that you go in for some dosh nivaran. If that's not possible - how about trying to make your parents see the light, with some gentle persuasion and re-education? And have faith in the Lord...I'm sure God's got something good in store for you!
2006-12-06 15:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our ancestors have shaped customs and traditions for the societies sound existence. Experience tells they were right and in todays scenario healthy too. To believe in nadi etc. it is up to the individual only.
2006-12-06 15:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by vavans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends. Its all in the mind. If you like each other though, maybe you should go ahead .Had you wanted a love marriege, u wouldn't have given up on your partner just becoz of some astrological fundas. Go ahead, just trust in GOD. Besides mostly the janampatris prepared are not very accurate.
Remove unnecessary doubts from your mind. Everything will be ok.
2006-12-09 11:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by raindrops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believing in that stuff, that's fine you can factor that into your decision to be with this girl. But what really matters is you get to know each other so you can tell weather your compatible or not. Find out if there is any real chemistry. Good luck.
2006-12-06 15:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you are looking forward to an arranged marriage do as your parents say. Some people believe it some dont. What matters is that your parents are particular about horoscopes.
2006-12-08 06:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t know the first thing about arranged marriage. However, as your parents were involved in finding the girl etc., I suggest you go the whole hog. Thousands are being married in this way…go for it man!
2006-12-06 15:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋