Do U believe once a cheater always a cheater.?

Question

Anyone cheat that feels so bad they hurt their loved one they wont or havent done it again?????

Answer 1

OH ya!!

don't matter cheater always cheat. feeling don't matter. it's what they do.

Answer 2

GREAT question & interesting responses. I believe it depends on #1. Maturity of person, #2 "Cheating" while dating, not married. Sandy made the comment, "...only sad because they got caught." I've found that "cheaters" don't feel SAD, just frustrated because they weren't discreet. A couple of examples: I know of man who cheated on three of his wives (many times) & in his last assignation, last wife, called his lover to cover for him, & the most TELLING of how he really felt was that he said he was going to "lose his business"--this being because all his wives had the money. He told this lover that he didn't have an "open marriage"--in other words, what was sauce for the gander wasn't sauce for the goose. Some men consider their sexual lives totally separate--wife--lover. I must also say that someone else suggested that cheaters were cheaters because there was something "missing" in the relationship they had. In GENERAL this is a symplistic excuse & I have found to be the exception. There is often a very deep, psychological reason for men who have affairs, having nothing to do with their partners. & please believe me; often the roots are an "issue" with their mothers. Just remember that NOTHING is an absolute.

Answer 3

No I don't sometimes in a relationship when you have been together for a while sometimes the love can fade not go away but fade. It does come back during that time maybe one of the partners will cheat but doesn't mean that they will do it again some people make mistakes and feel bad about it and they learn from it. I figure they can make a mistake once it is a mistake but if they do it twice then they don't love you time to move on.

Answer 4

The only time that i ever cheated on someone was b/c i thought and knew they were doing the same thing to me, although..I have an extremely guilty conscience and that kind of interfered with it. So i was still miserable. I don't agree with people that cheat on others..Its not fair at all. So, in answer to your question, I say, Yes, once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 5

Not always, but usually. There are always different circumstances involved. I cheated on my 1st husband when I was in my late teens & early 20's. I did it because he was mentally, emotionally & physically abusive and I wanted to feel loved by someone. I also felt like I was getting back at him even though he didn't know about it.
However, I am now 35 and will NEVER cheat on my fiancee. I have grown up a lot since then and deal with things differently. This being said, I would never marry someone like my 1st husband again!!!
Once trust is broken in a relationship there is no going back. You may overcome it but there is so much damage it's usually not worth trying.

Answer 6

I think you are right, once a cheater, always a cheater. But we must not apply this to every individual, who knows they might change? So forgiveness is better in this regard...forgive but don't forget is the mantra i follow whenever i feel cheated on.

Answer 7

I'm 38, male and have never cheated on a woman that i was exclusive with. I don't believe in it. A commitment is a commitment, period. People that cheat and cheat again will in my opinion, always cheat. It's a sick mental illness and lack of morals.

I broke off an engagement a few years ago because my fiance hooked up one night with her ex/bf and tried to lie about it. A mutual friend told me about it. I left her because I knew deep down that if she did it once, she'd do it again. I could never trust her again so I ended it.

Answer 8

Yeah, pretty much. A leopard can't change its spots.

Sure, some cheaters will never cheat again...but statistically, it's a losing bet, the same way that I wouldn't want my sister to marry a convicted wife beater or leave my kids with child abusers.

Answer 9

To say once a cheater always a cheater is like saying once an egg always an egg. Things change and so do people. If everyone was truely that unforgiving.... God would be out of business.

Answer 10

I don't believe a cheater ever stops...i have seen it too many times....i believe the cheater enjoys the pain they cause the other person,otherwise they wouldn't do it in the first place!

Answer 11

Not technically always. But yea cheaters have a hard time quiting. My best friend has cheated countless times on his girlfriend who he has a baby with.