If you were deeply madly in love with your significant other but they were serving a life sentence in prison, would you marry them and stick by their side or would you run the other way as fast as you could?
2006-12-06 06:21:22 · 42 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After 20 years he has a possibility of parole and conjugal visits are also permitted if married.
2006-12-06 06:36:39 · update #1
YOu can still be a support system to your soul mate without having to commit yourself to him. And anyway, if someone really loves you, they would never want you to waste YOUR freedom b/c of something that they did. YOU didn't commit a crime, so I don't think you deserve to be punished by never being able to hold that person as you drift off to sleep, have them by your bed as you give birth to your children, there's so much you would be WILLINGLY giving up on. If he loves you, he would tell you to get on with your life. That doesn't mean you can't write, talk on the phone, etc and still be a part of each others life, I just don't think you should give up on yours because of a mistake that he made.
2006-12-06 06:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would do that? I looked into this issue for a long time and even researched it with records and convicts them self's and I came up with this....First of all, if your man is doing a life sentence, hes got some serious problems with society and is a menice to the safety of society as well. Secondly, I found that the only women that Marry lifers are women that need some serious counseling about their jealousy and insecurity as well as their self esteem.They know where their man (?) is at all times and don't have to worry about him being with a another woman. Thirdly, why would anyone live a live of celibacy and spend their life a lone and without a partner to enjoy life with and blossom while someone is rotting in prison serving a life term that ,in most cases, have done something so evil that they put themselves there in the first place. Any man or woman that would stoop down to this kind of marriage and think they're happy has got to be about three flakes short of a blizzard. If you research the facts, you'll find that most lifers will find some gullible woman, con her, tell her how much he's in love with her just to keep money in the commissary account. Last....do you really think you will STAY faithfull to him for the rest of your life when he's just using you? you wont! but he'll be getting his on the inside. I'm not trying to offend you or be mean , it's just the facts and my opinion.
2006-12-06 07:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life in prison? So that would mean even if you married them you couldnt be a "normal" married couple? I thought that it meant for a second that he would get out, if that was the case I'd say sure... they have the ability to change and hopefully hes not in there for something serious or something that would hurt you. You deserve a good life while being married, waiting at home alone while hes sitting in jail isnt fair to you. I understand you love him, but I'd say No. Even if you didnt marry him you can still be there for him and stick by him.
2006-12-06 06:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend is in a situation like that and she is definitely sticking by his side until he gets out of jail. Me personally wouldn't but she says that she loves him and that he makes her happy. I think its because she has a love self esteem and she thinks that no other man will want her because she is overweight which isn't true at all. She is an adult and I've talked to her over and over but she has to make her own mistakes and live with them. He will be there for life and if you are young and want a family well he certainly can't give you one or even be there to take care of the family. Find someone thats free or at least have a lesser sentence.
2006-12-06 06:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont think you are in love with him but what he writes and says to you.. think about it if he is in prison for life he had to have done something really really bad... I would look else where for love.. someone that could hold you at night.. someone you could go places with.. someone who respects you hun.... There is no love here just lust is sounding more like it.... That would be a horribe relationship sounds like he is using you because once you get married he will want you to pay lawyer bills and stuff like that.. He is in there for a reason consider that and you are out here so go find a new life with a new guy
2006-12-06 06:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the person in prison, lets say for life, Thats not an act of love to marry someone outside who has their entire life to live and have happiness, a house and kids and normal family vacations. The person on the outside just wants to make the person in prison feel better but they are locking themselves in for a lot of hurt.
2006-12-06 06:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with someone that's in prison.. for life. You are in love with someone who made so many bad choices to the point that he will spend the rest of his life in prison. He may be a better man and may have learned from his mistakes but unless he has a chance of parole or you can move in with him in prison, you should move on. To be in love with someone in jail is like to be in love with a dead person. He is gone, you need to let go
2006-12-06 06:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think i would run the other way. the rltp is not healthy. u need to be there for one another emotionally. i used to work in a prison and these guys are really rough, they are an illusion. these men or woman, are manipulators. they are using u as an outlet for the outside world. they r using u for canteen $$$ and conversations and visits.
what r u getting in return?
2006-12-06 06:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was going to do a life sentence yes I would marry him and be by his side yet you have to understand he is never coming out so I would have my own life outside so I would basicly have 2 lives in one
2006-12-06 06:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to say its okay to love them but whats the point of marrying them...they are serving a LIFE sentence ?? sorry i know its mean but i would run the other way
2006-12-06 06:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋