Ever since I have been pregnant I have become insanely jealous if my husband just looks at another women, is around beautiful girls, or watches something on tv with girls prancing around in their undies. I just flip out. I never used to do that. I guess I am so worried that he will find me unattractive. I don't understand why a I am getting so furious over this.
2006-12-06 06:03:38 · 41 answers · asked by Loves2Snuggle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1) you are full of tons of hormones right now that you don't normally have to deal with.
2) your body is going through some MAJOR changes right now, and you are afraid they make you look unattractive
consider counseling to deal with your low self esteem, and talk to your husband about needing to feel beautiful now, more than ever, and that he won't understand, but you need to hear it more now and that he needs to be supportive.
2006-12-06 06:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't be able to help the feeling of jealousy completely, but you can help it all little. I recommend telling your husband that you feel unattractive and emotionally vulnerable about it. If he is smart, his response should be to reassure you that he still finds you attractive. Depending on how the pregnancy is making you feel physically, try having more sexual experiences with him. That can help your self esteem just having him give your body pleasurable attention.
Another simple thing to do is to go out to eat at a nice restaurant. Go to a salon and get your hair done, find a nice dress, and put on some nice jewelry. He'll be impressed by how elegant a pregnant woman can be and be sure to let you know that. Most importantly though, know that (1) he loves you and does find you attractive, (2) this situation is only temporary, and (3) hormones are a pain in the butt.
A final option is talking to your doctor about your problem. He may recommend Prozac, which is safe to use during pregnancy. The great benefit to this is that it can even out your emotions and squelch a bit of the paranoia you are feeling right now (it helped my wife ALOT). But definitely talk to your doctor before doing anything like that.
Hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-06 06:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by professortig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones. Nothing but hormones. But at least part of your brain still works and makes you realize this is WRONG. Not much you can do to make it all go away, you are pregnant and feel unattractive and you think your hubby may leave you. But he loves you. Every man looks at other women, even the christian ones, we all do it however only a few admit it. There is nothing wrong with looking.
He wont cheat on you or leave you just because you are pregnant. A pregnancy also affects the male (at least the good ones) it makes us more like dads and all we think of is baby stuff. It happened to me and I would lie to say I didnt check out other women but I never did anything else because my mind was always set on baby stuff.
Spend time with him and if you both feel up to it, have some sex (ie handjob, bj, etc) Just take him by surprise and make him understand that a baby doesnt mean you completely forgot about him.
whatever you do, please try very hard to control your jaelous rage or else it with destroy your relationship entirely
2006-12-06 06:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually really common with women to think that way, whether someone tells you to trust your husband or not. I'm no therapist, but maybe just distracked him from watching women like asking him to go out with you, like some where private where there aren't many women. Or, have conversations with him, you could watch the movies with him, it's not that bad. If he isn't cheating, don't worry about it. He isn't cheating and hasn't right? Doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive anymore. He found you attractive when he got with you, he still will. Staring at women is a guy thing, girls do too! lol, we sometimes notice a beautiful woman before they do!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-06 06:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, it's okay! I'm almost 39 weeks pregnant, and honestly I just can't stand my husband even being around another girl...she doesn't even have to be pretty, it just bothers me. It's a mix of the hormones, and the fact that you're never going to look the same again. I worry that he's not going to be as attracted to me as he was before, and that he'll see something better, or whatever. I know it's insane, but just know that it'll pass. One of the joys of pregnancy!
2006-12-06 06:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things...
One, you feel unattractive. You need to remember though, there's a reason your husband got you pregnant. He loves you, and finds you attractive. You also have to remember, that he finds you attractive while pregnant.. That is HIS baby your carrying after all.
Two. Can you say hormones?
When you get crazy jealous over a stupid tv commercial.. Try chilling out a bit, and thinking about the things that brought you together. Remember the reasons your pregnant... and most of all... when he says you're still attractive to him while pregnant... he means it.
2006-12-06 06:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you precious lady! Pregnant women are my favorite, and they are the craziest of them all . You know about all the things going on in your body, I am sure. So, realize this and try not to let it get to you. Try to go to bed at night and forget all that happened that day. Start each day off with a clean "slate" dear. If you don't do this, you will be bitching at him 20 years from now about what he did when you were pregnant!!
Hopefull he will have enough sense to cradle you in his arms and rock you like a baby, and tell you how special you are and how much he loves you! You have to spoil a pregnant lady for sure!! Yep, or catch hell later!! G
2006-12-06 06:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to be crazy b/c you are preggers and it makes you a whacko but I think it just b/c you are feeling like a fat cow (even though I am sure you are beautiful!) and you're probably not used to that feeling. Also, sometimes husbands get weird about their wives being pregnant, like they don't want to "soil" you now that you're carrying their baby, or like your attention is going to go the baby and not him, they are just like big kids sometimes, so maybe you are just getting that weird vibe from him. Either way, I am sure if he is looking at other girls he is probably just thinking about how he can't wait till you're back to normal and feeling good about yourself, I am sure he's not wishing he was with someone else. Unless you married an asshole, he is probably just a little scared and worried about you and just wants you to be happy. Maybe tell him how you're feeling? If this isn't how you usually are, I am sure he would understand and maybe even be a little more sensitive to how it is hurting you. Happy gestating!!
2006-12-06 06:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are all out of wack and it can make you act like a crazy person. It's normal. Just tell your husband he'll only have to put up with it for about 9 months.
2006-12-06 06:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by obeyfez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a woman is pregnant, her hormones are out of control. They go up & down whenever they want to. You have to understand that & your husband has to understand that. Try to think about this when you're having one of your "moments". If you have a great husband, he will be strong through this. He won't hold this against you.
2006-12-06 06:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋