Can I date when not completely divorced, or do I have to wait on the courts being done?

Question

Yes I have a child with him. Our situation is not like most peoples. He was gone for a year in Iraq came home and said he could not be part of a family anymore. He left us. Yes he might be screwed up in the head and might change his mind but he is still in the milit. what's keep this from happening again. My son has known him a total of 6 months out of his life due to the military, so I really don't think he will be bothered by it, he is very young still.

Answer 1

You can do anything you want to.

But, the question is, is it right?

What are YOUR personal standards?

The rule for all single adult activities (dances, parties, conferences, picnics, et cetera) in the Church of JESUS CHRIST of Latter-day Saints (the "Mormon" church) is that "all divorces must be final".

That is also the rule for dating.

No, it's not what the rest of the world believes or counsels.

But, it's the difference between doing what's right and doing what's popular.

Answer 2

Can you? Yes.

Should you? That depends on a number of things. Your family, the relationship you have with your (soon-to-be) ex, and whether you have children.

If you have children, for God's sake don't date yet...your kids are going to be traumatized enough as it is, and you don't want to add any fuel to their therapy bills later.

If there aren't any feelings involved - your ex is psycho, your family supports the divorce 100%, you don't have kids - then go for it! Dating can be a good way to move on. Just make sure you're 100% open about things when you date. It's never good if the person you're dating finds out you're still legally married the hard way.

Answer 3

I definitely agree with the person who said "not if you have kids" because if your ex wanted to, he could make things very difficult if he found out.

Overall, though, I think it just depends. I'll tell you that I dated before mine was final. I did it because my ex had moved to another state and was refusing to come to court. I couldn't afford to actually file for divorce, and he could, but he just wouldn't do it. Once he finally filed, he kept putting off the signing of the papers--just to make my life miserable, really.

But you should be open about it to the person you're dating, expecially if it's serious at all. You never know--they could find out later that you weren't realy divorced, and they might wonder why you weren't truthful about it.

Answer 4

You can date but some states say you can't so make sure you check that because you can lose a lot in the divorce if you do. But most don't care. I'm trying to get one and I'm date My soon to be husband. So it all about how you feel.

Answer 5

I dont think you should date until the divorce is final.Just out of respect,and u never know what if things change and that ruins the chances of anything good happening.Would u want him to date before your divorce is final?

Answer 6

Are you legally seperated? If so, yea..go for it..I didnt wait on the court system..It took me almost 2 years to get a final divorce...Good luck, and dont jump into anything, enjoy the single life..

Answer 7

You can date now. You don't have to wait for the final papers.

Answer 8

Depends on if you have kids. If you have kids I wouldn't take the chance of that affecting the outcome...
Otherwise... do what you want. The relationship is over.

Answer 9

You can date now. The choice is yours.

Answer 10

IF U CHOOSE TO DATE THATS UR OPINION DO WHAT U LIKE!! I MEAN DONT GO AND GET ENGAGED OR SOMETHING DUMB LIKE THAT OKAY!! GOODLUCK!!