My wife and I are separated. She calls and updates me with what's up with her. She especially calls when she needs something. I guess because I'm the only one who she can trust and rely on 100%.
I called her on Sunday afternoon. She didn't call me back until Monday morning-- 20 hours later. She was asking if we could meet up for lunch. I couldn't make it though.
Later that day she was talking with me about her health. She's had a medical problem lately and she knows that I get concerned about that stuff. So we spoke and she was calling me "babe" and "baby." Then she said she would call later.
But she didn't call.
Why would she be calling me about her health stuff if she didn't want me in her life?
Why would she call me "babe" and "baby" and then not call me?
I love her like crazy, but I'm not desperate.
I don't know what she wants.
2006-12-06 05:48:08 · 24 answers · asked by Sexual Chocolate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Making some changes in you might cause her to look at you differently. What do you want?
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2006-12-06 05:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you and her maybe confused about marriage. If you are separated, then separate lives are what each leads, but if this is what is going on all the time, then perhaps there maybe hope for your marriage yet. However a note of caution here; she may also just be playing on your feelings too.
Perhaps the best course to follow would be to make time for each other over several occasions and find out what each of you want in your "on again, off again" relationship. If togetherness is what is wanted and needed for the both of you, then you both need to make a honest effort, including counseling if need be.
Any relationship needs to worked at by both parties, whether it's a work, marriage, or anything in between. "happily ever after" is for fairy tales.
2006-12-06 14:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by kamikaze_4021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is either a. still just in the habit of talking to you b. wants you back or c. is playing with you. I would think that it is prolly NOT b. It seems she would be a lot more direct if whe wanted to get back together. Since it is prolly a. or c. I would just take 20 or so hours to call her back and move on with my life. You shouldnt have to figure out what she wants. good luck.
2006-12-06 13:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by cheese food product 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's confused in what she wants. Your comfortable to her she is used to calling you "babe" . She may be calling you those names just because she knows that you are worried about her. She prob wants you to surprise her with some flowers and a big hug in your familiar arms to fell comfort and support from you in the hard times that she is going through right now.
2006-12-06 13:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. She is worried about her medical condition and needed someone to talk to to alleviate her own fears. She obviously still trusts you and is using you for emotional support. My guess is that her calling you 'babe' is because she is feeling very emotional, i.e. scared, about her medical situation, and one strong emotion will increase other emotions as well, such as her feelings for you.
Be her friend. But, whatever problems you had before that drove you two apart will come back once she is no longer worried about her health.
2006-12-06 13:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She called you about her health stuff because after being her husband for (?) she just thought you ought to know. After all you are her next of kin.
The babe and baby parts are only terms of endearment nothing more.
2006-12-06 13:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's confused. LIke she cant' resist talking to you and cant resist calling you baby, but then after she does it she might regret it. Or not be sure she should be doing it. Don't know what you should do about it though. Maybe just "avoid" her until she can get her thoughts together.
2006-12-06 13:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she knows you care and she is comfortable with you and can talk to you about things. It doesn't sound like she wants to get back together, so if you are interersted in it being an ongoing friendship then continue, it not tell her!
2006-12-06 13:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you to tell her what you have said in this forum. Re-affirm your love for her. Start dating her again and put everything up front no guessing games. You have nothing too lose.
2006-12-06 13:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is still holding on to you knowing that you still love her , at the end of the day she is just using you and the question you need to ask is do you want to be used?
2006-12-06 13:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋