I don't know what to do because I don't want her to feel unattractive...
2006-12-05 15:18:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She hates her body... but I actually like it... but she will not ever let me see her naked... sex has to be in the dark...so I get very discouraged....
2006-12-05 15:26:27 · update #1
Figure out what about her that makes you not attracted to her. If it's her hair, get her a gift certificate to the salon. If she doesn't dress in lingerie, get her some. Make the effort without actually telling her. Women NEVER forget these kinds of things.
2006-12-05 15:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Scorpio11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this the wrong way but every couple is head over heals with each other and sex 3 or 4 times a day until the new wears off and then it's ok this has to be done and that has to be taken care of etc.I do think you do love your wife but i don't believe you are in love with her( there is a big difference) you need to fall back in love or leave cause no one should be miserable just so someone else can be happy,that will have you saying hurtful things to her.Start over like it was your first time seeing her,go to the movies,dinner,etc.I hope things work out for you and only you can turn things around(you only get out what you put in a relationship)
2016-05-22 23:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help if we understood WHY you don't feel attraction toward her anymore. What types of things caused you to change your feelings? Without knowing that then there is not much help I can give you. Except... It could be costly but you could set up a full day spa and make over day for her as a gift. She could get her hair cut and styled, bikini waxed, body polish, facial, new make up, and of course... a long massage. This kind of treatment will leave her feeling very sexy and that will allow her to BE more sexy. You'll definitely benefit if she's feeling beautiful and you never know... you may find her attractive again. Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-05 15:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, at least you're sincere about not wanting her to be hurt or feel unattractive. I think the 1st thing...Don't tell her you feel this way - at least not like you posed your question. Telling her you aren't sexually attracted to her anymore will pretty much squash any chance of her ever opening up to you on a sexual level. Perhaps you could tell her that you'd like to spice things up a bit. Try something different. Get some toys - have her help pick them out online. Download some porn, watch it together, see how she reacts and maybe you'll respond to that. Maybe it isn't that you're not sexually attracted to the same thing all over again, but are needing to switch things up a bit. BUT...tell her you want to be more adventurous and exploring in sexuality so it doesn't freak her out that you're getting sexually wierd, or that you're coming up with new things because you're cheating or something. INVOLVE her and talk with her about wanting to explore new avenues. But don't ever tell her she doesn't excite you, that will only crush her beyond repair, and she'll never be able to be with you sexually without hearing those words over and over again. BTW...paying extra special attention to HER sexual needs and desires, and fulfilling some of her wild pleasures is a great way to bring out the tigress that you've lost contact with. ;-)
2006-12-05 15:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by ktoffer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it her, or maybe, you cannot feel sexually attracted because of a physical
problem? If it is her......yes, you can love her with all your heart, however,
sex is important in marriage. talk to her and tell her...it's going to be hard.
Do you want to continue living this way? You only live once.....no second life here on earth. Quite possibly, it really is something she is doing that just does not appeal to you....maybe she can change it....and be like when you both met, well almost.
Clear it up with her....In my opinion, it would really help.
Good luck!
2006-12-05 15:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there has to be a reason that you are not sexually attracted to her anymore since you must have been very attracted to her that way since you married her. do not go out and do something you will only regret. talk to her but do not put it that way. tell her you are having problems with the way you have begun to feel about sex. maybe she feels the same way. maybe both of you working on it ,,, you will have the best sex life ever!!
2006-12-05 15:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by robin j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it because you just the Victoria's Secret Panty show?
I am just kidding. In the beginning of any relationship, there is a lot of chemistry. Then it dies down. Same thig with me and my husband, that is why you need to try new things. Ask yourself what turns you on and then do it with your wife. It may just be a rut you're in, things start to seem routine. But if you still love her, keep at it.
2006-12-05 15:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by econ476 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this give your wife a make over if she asks why you what to do this say you want to spice things up a bit tell her she is beautiful but she has the potential to be so much more and you want to see her dressed up and ready to go shes got wrinkles get some botox she has saggy fat you both go to the gym together to make it a date for the both of you tell her u want to get in shape and it would probably make her feel so much more alive if she does to she wears old frumpy cloths get her some different ones tell her she deserves a new wardrobe just help her pick them out no make up buy her some for a present tell her you want to see her features stand out teeth yellow get crest whitening strips be honest about the teeth hair out of control go to the salon get something easy and manageable for her hell dye it good luck and if you cant make her attractive tell her
2006-12-05 15:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by tracemiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you are not attracted to her. Has she changed? Is she overweight? Or, are your own tastes changing? If you truly do not find her attractive and there is nothing that can be done about it, you have to make a choice. Do you stay in a marriage where attraction is history, or do you go in search of someone who does attract you? Your call, mate.
2006-12-05 15:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that your wife has gained a substantial amount of weight over the past years... ask her to go with you on a walk every night... dont tell her you are not attracted to her anymore... it will break her. I repeat... DO NOT TELL HER!!! Ask her if she would like to sign up to a gym.... be very subtle about it... and oh yeah... do not cheat on her over this
2006-12-05 15:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋