Follow up: w/ this condition I have been reading about (that I think she might have; she has admitted to me something isn't right in the way she "thinks" but she doesn't know what or why), one of the paramount concerns a person will have is an enhanced fear of abandonment. Another is depression. If I cut her loose completely, she will only tell herself she was right for fearing that I would run from her and merely abase herself more, not only for me leaving her, but also for chasing me away. Now, I know it doesn't have to be my problem, but I REALLY care about this girl (just hate these actions, but I realize she can't necessarily control them and probably needs help in doing so). So w/ this in mind, how would I gently suggest that I have found some material that sounded relevent, I hope she will read it, and if she chooses to seek help, that I will be there to support her?
2006-12-05 01:46:20 · 5 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I may come across as being obsessed, but let's face it. How willing to not only accept but share with this girl I absolutely adore that she might have a condition like this? She has told ME before that she doesn't know why she is like this, but that is frustrates and terrifies her. So do I let her be terrified alone or at least try to convince myself that this could actually help her, at least put some substance to what she is experiencing (despite the fact that she may despise me for even suggesting this)?
2006-12-05 02:01:11 · update #1
If you truly love her, and if she is in love with you, then love will guide the way... love and trust overpowers all things, if it is right. caring and loving someone is hard to find in this world, if you are willing to be there for her, do it, one day at a time, help her get better, get her to trust you and just talk to her one day, gently...
you are a good man, but it is never easy with depression...
listen to your heart, dont just go by what others say, do what you feel is right... no matter what.
love heals all wounds
2006-12-05 02:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by darkshadow300200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide what to do based on what is best for you and your life.
YOu seem to believe that you should take action basedon what is best for her.
YOu need to think about your long term happiness first.
What do you want?
YOu could always give her a copy of the book and suggest she read it.
2006-12-05 09:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her get help if she wants it and then just be there to support her as a friend or boyfriend if that's what you want. If she doesn't want help you need to just move on. It is her decision. Its not all that complicated. I see your inaction as the major problem at this point.
2006-12-05 11:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by blue_sky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the book on the table and walk out the back Jack...21 ways to leave your lover. Why make it so complicated. Thanks for the points. Gotta get to the next level today.
2006-12-05 10:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLLOOOO? CRIPES you are OBSESSED with this. I looked at all your past questions and you are totally obsessed with her and her "problems." YOU are the one who needs the mental help. Go see a professional therapist.
2006-12-05 09:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋