how can i deal with my wife ....she is a "homebody" who likes to sit in the sofa and whatch movies, and i'm a very out going person who loves go out to hang out.....and that drives me crazy...and she doesn't get it...what can i do?????
2006-12-04 13:55:16 · 13 answers · asked by Evil Dude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My relationship is very similar. We have come to terms with our differences, and we are still working on a solution, still trying to figure out what works best for us. But that is the first step: you have to talk to each other.
Our agreement is that I will go do things with my friends, but I won't "make" him come along, unless it is something that I really want him to be at. I have to learn to be comfortable doing things without him, and I just kinda hope that my friends understand that it is nothing against them--he just doesn't really like to go out. (I think they mostly get it.) On the other hand, if I want to go do something, just the two of us, I have to understand if he would rather do something at home (like play a board game). That's the compromise part.
So, for you: Tell her what is bothering you. Remember that you are married and marriage means finding compromises. Be respectful of each other, and most importantly, realize that neither of you can expect the other to change over night. Change takes time.
2006-12-04 14:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by xgravity23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married? Do you have anything in common?
Is there any chance she's depressed or has she always been like this?
Make a pact with her that you will stay home and watch movies with her but she has to agree to go out with you at least (pick a number you can be comfortable with) times a week.
If she can't agree to this then it's probably time to seek professional help.
2006-12-04 14:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by sassy sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why you date before getting married to study the individual and look at compatibility. in your case...you need to look into the things that she likes and meet her halfway. Woman get tired of going out and hanging out with friends all the time so just change it around a little. Start out with dinner for two, then eventually work your way to bringing in some couples along, eventually she should join in on the fun
2006-12-04 14:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by jayjay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did you do while you were dating? Try to find a balance... take turns planning "date nights" -- your night can be a night out; hers can be a movie-at-home night. Many women wouldn't turn down a nice dinner and fun night out, even if they are a homebody, if her husband has it all planned out and is excited about it.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 13:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IT SHOULDN'T DRIVE YOU CRAZY YOU KNEW SHE WAS LIKE THAT WHEN YOU MET HER. SIT DOWN AND HAVE A TALK WITH HER AND LET HER NO THAT YOU WOULD LIKE FOR HER SPEND SOME TIME WITH YOU DOING SOME OF THE THINGS YOU LIKE TO SO SOMETIMES.
2006-12-04 16:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by desperate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to explain to her how you feel. if that doesn't work, go out without her. she might get the hint. compromise, offer to stay home 2 nights a week if she goes out 2 nights a week.
2006-12-04 13:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing some things she like or going places she likes to go. and she will never find out its fun/exciting unless she gets up my husband too have that problem with me, when im finally up and do these things with him....only because i love him i tend to enjoy myself
2006-12-04 14:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by tasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her about it? Try to find mutual things that you both like to do. You guys sound like opposites. You ned to come together.
2006-12-04 14:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely &..... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with it...u married her being a "homebody"...and we all know u cant change peope who dont want to be changed.
2006-12-04 13:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she may have depression. you need to tell her to get checked. if she becomes so much like a hermit crab it is very possible and needs to be addressed.
2006-12-04 14:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by gaidens_momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋