A guy I met is going to call me for a dinner date. However, I just got out of a relationship and realized now that I am not yet ready to date. Please complete the following sentence:
Do you want to go out tonight for dinner?
Please I need help with actually formulating what to say. Plus I want to do it in the most honest, nice way possible.
2006-12-04 13:36:56 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
complete feelings you:
"you know, your really great and I'm totally interested but I'm getting right out of a relationship and I'm just not shure if I'm ready wet, but I really want to"
short you:
"Na, I dont really fell like doing that right now, just got out of one of those dating things"
nice you:
" Gosh, I really like you and all, but um.... i dont think I'm emotionally ready. But we could totally go for it later when I think I'm ready"
If this guy really likes you he will wait. If you mention the later thing and he doesn't like it than he isn't worth your time cause true love waits.
2006-12-04 13:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie*pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nervousness is different then not being ready. Ask yourself what is the worst thing that could happen if you go out with someone new? You may or may not have fun! That's not so bad. But rejecting this person because you're not ready to move on? That can't be entirely true or you wouldn't have this question on your mind at all. I say go on the date and have a good time. Put the past behind you if only for one evening. If you must reject them, don't say, "it's not you it's me" that would be lame. Ask for a raincheck!
2006-12-04 13:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by notblueatall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you like to go out for dinner tonight? I just got out of a relationship, but I would love to get to know you better.
Then, just see how it goes. The worst thing about this is that you two could become friends and then maybe later on down the road, more.
2006-12-04 13:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to have let you think that I was ready to date again. I have just ended a long relationship, and I'm just not ready to start dating. I could go to dinner, if you and I could possibly just be friends for now?
2006-12-04 13:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by dallygirl89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Why not go out to dinner and have a nice time? Just a dinner, not a love affair.
2. If you do not feel like being social at all, then just be honest with the guy. Tell him under other circumstances you would accept his invitation, but with your recent breakup you realize that you really aren't feeling as social as you thought and you apologize if you mislead him. Thank him for his interest.
2006-12-04 13:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest. tell him 'i appreciate your offer to take me to dinner. but i have to be honest i just got out of a relationship and i'm really not ready to start dating again right now. if it's ok with you i'd like to just talk over the phone right now at a platonic level until i feel more ready to start dating again' if he really likes you he'll be understanding and willing to respect your feelings. if he's not then he's not worth dating anyway. make sure you emphasize that he's not the reason you don't want to go out at this time.
2006-12-04 13:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John (whoever), I'm sorry. I'm afraid that I led you on. I just got out of a relationship. When I met you, I really liked you, and I fooled myself into believing that I was ready to move on, but I thought about it and I realize that I'm not. It's not fair to lead you on when I'm not over my ex. You're a really special guy and I like you, but I'm just not ready to move on. I'm so sorry.
I wouldn't try to suggest that you be friends. At least, not at this point. If he brings it up, use your best judgment. Understand, though, that he wants something more and he will eventually try to make that happen. Let it go. Let HIM go. At least for now.
Hang in there! When you're ready, you'll know.
Polly
2006-12-04 14:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Polly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know up front that you just got out of a relationship and that the only thing your looking for is a friend.Tell him thank you for asking you but it wouldn't be fair to him if he was looking for something other than a friend.See how that works for you.You might not feel like dating but diffrent company and conversation is very nice and it might be what you need to get moving in the right direction.
2006-12-04 13:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by country girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I'd love to go out for dinner as friends. If he brings it up, let him know that you're not ready to plunge into a relationship again. Just be honest.
2006-12-04 13:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Steph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me be honest with you. I just got out of a serious relationship and i am not ready to date, but if we can become friends and get to know each other, I will keep u in mind for a dating relationship.
now if he likes u he may go for that but that may cause him to be disinterested...so u have to take a risk in either being ready right away or losing a potential partner.
2006-12-04 13:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by Fball03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋