I have been friends with this guy for a short period of time. He is married and I am acquaintances with his wife. The problem is that he keeps hitting on me when his wife is not around. I have told him that I am involved with someone else and that I am not going to cheat on my boyfriend and especially not with a married man. Should I tell his wife so he will leave me alone? Thanks for the advice!
2006-12-04 06:41:23 · 13 answers · asked by Michelle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd say just stop being friends with him? His wife will likely blame you (why? I never understand....). If you giggle and laugh and tell him no he probably thinks you're playing along. If you flat out tell him no and he persists, just end the friendship.
2006-12-04 06:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him one last chance to leave you alone, as far as hitting on you. Be polite, and tell him, your next step is to have lunch or dinner with his wife, and explain what has been going on. If you don't, he sounds like the type, that will turn the story around, and make you sound like the bad person. I wouldn't wait, It's not gonna get any better.
2006-12-04 14:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What l would do is telling him that if he doesn't stop, you'll go see his wife and tell her. And if he keeps hitting on you after that, then go ahead and tell her, she has a right to know and maybe he is cheating on her already. She deserves to know
2006-12-04 14:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont tell his wife, he would lie to her and convince her that u are the one who is chasing him...she will trust him more (he is her husband). but just tell him that if he didnt stop this u will tell his wife..
stay away from them for a while and just avoid being alone wz him in the future
2006-12-04 14:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by salma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you told him once already you didn't want him ... and he still continues to hound you ... maybe a small conversation to his wife might be called for ... he should take a hint ... be firm & tell him if it doesn't stop then you'll inform his wife of his flirty behavior ... !
2006-12-04 14:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YesI would tell his wife not only so he would stop hitting on you but if you were married and your husband was doing that wouldnt you want to know
2006-12-04 14:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by chase 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your response was perfect. You assumed responsibility for your actions....you just did not say, "you are married, i don't go out with married men?" You did tell him that you were seeing someone else which lets him know that he nor his marital status does not have an influence on your decisions. good job!
2006-12-04 14:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say tell his wife. If you are honest with her and he isn't, then it won't come down on your head later when she eventually finds out.
2006-12-04 14:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her, just because Im sick & tired of telling him that I'm not interested, if I cant beat it into his head I bet she could!! LOL
2006-12-04 14:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Him "hitting on" you is not doing you any harm. It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.
2006-12-04 14:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋