i was with my bf of 9 mons when his ex gf called his cell.he did not answer later i asked what she wanted and he said she did not leave a message.i thought something was fishy(he has a history of cheating with this person)so that same night when he was in the shower i listened to his voice mail and sure enough there was a long message from her in his saved messages(so he lisened to at least part of it).she went on about how shes been dreaming about him and misses him and you know the rest.i asked him again if she left a message and again he said no.when i told him what i did he flipped out and thru me out.yes what i did was not right but i did this only because i know he cheated on his ex-wife with her.2 days went by and i called him and he acted like nothing ever happened and never said a thing about it.what do you think?
2006-12-04 06:33:45 · 11 answers · asked by carriemackey05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run! As fast as you can, the guy is a cheater, so if he has cheated before, he will do it again. Leave him as soon as you can.
2006-12-04 06:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes a cheater and never will change. Its hard to just tell you to leave him cause y'all have been together for some time, but it is the best advice. Hes obviously trying to keep this from you and doesnt do such a good job. All i have to say is you should get out of this relationship before it gets too far into it and he ends up cheating on you with her. Believe me, it'll hurt a lot more then when that happens. I wish ya the best of luck!
2006-12-04 06:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he lied, he has a history of cheating, he flipped when confronted, he threw you out! YOU called HIM and he acted like nothing ever happened. What exactly makes you feel good about this "relationship"?
Cheating or thinking of it? Cheating in the sense that he did not tell you about the ex's calls. Cheating regardless of whether they have seen each other recently or not.
Ditto. "Run, run like the wind!"
2006-12-04 06:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your biggest problem is NOT if he is cheating you have no clear evidence if he is or not just look s bad! Your big problem is your lack of trust! Now I am not saying he is worth the thrust or his actions support trust. But you clearly don't trust him!! You violated his private space by listening to his messages and you clearly do not trust him. So its not if he is cheating or not its that you do not trust him and since you do not I suggest you end the relationship
2006-12-04 06:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, this man has a problem with commitment and this man is just continuing a cyle and you need to leave him alone....
This man is not ready to settle down with you or anyone else....Leave before it goes to far and you really fall in love...All I see is a future of nothing but, hut, pain or death....You need to think about AIDS and all the other diseases that are out there that he can give you or pass around....NO ONE IS WORTH DYING FOR WHO IS CARELESS
2006-12-04 08:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you only been dating for 9mos. he hasn't made a comment with you? so why get so mad? if this is the girl he keeps running back to and he doe's for one he cheating with her with his ex wife and now he's lien to you about her phone message come on now do you really think he's not into her.he proved to you that your not **** when it comes to this other women. for one he lied to you then when you found out he though YOU out. ya he was mad because you went though his messages but the bottom line is you caught him in a lie about her message. and those two days you didn't hear from him. don't you think he was talking to her. don't matter if your with him or not he going to talk to her. why? he hasn't called it quits. like my boyfriend now when i first got with him he had girls calling him, but i keep my cool and when he wanted more from me like us getting seriously together and I'll be at his house he told those girls he's with his women and not to call him back and of course you get 1 or 2 that call back he tell me to answer the phone to let them know i was there and he get on the phone in tell them i told you i have someone after a while they stop calling. you see that guy your dating hasn't done that for you, so want doe's that tell you. after 9mos don't you think he should of by now. read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger
2006-12-04 07:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of this dating already has too lots difficulty brewing and you will desire to bypass forward and flow on. of course you do no longer have faith him and clearly there's a sturdy reason. Get out now formerly issues get even worse.
2016-10-14 00:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by dusik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on his ex wife with youm then you are getting what you deserve. If not, then you knew better getting into this. Sounds like a class A jerk to me. Make him your ex also.
2006-12-04 06:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He not only lied to you, he threw you out for calling him on it. His message to you: "You are not allowed to disagree with me." Why would you want to stay in a relationship with someone with whom you are not allowed to disagree?
2006-12-04 06:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're nuts. He cheats. You KNOW he cheats. And you want him in your life? What's wrong with this picture???
2006-12-04 06:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋