2006-12-04 06:32:20 · 13 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a very good question. The answer is not so easy. I was married 24 years. My new friends who had already gone throught a divorce told me a good rule of thumb was 1 year healing for every 5 years you were married. So they told me I was looking at 5 years of healing.
My divorce was final in Mar 1999. That was nearly 7 or 8 years ago. I am tired of counting. But she was right on. The two years after the divorce I was still hurting. HEART ache is real. And only someone who has been throught it knows how bad it really is.
So now 6 or 7 years later, I am re-married and I am "over it" But I often wonder if I will ever truly heal. The scars are there and will be there for a very long time.
Counseling might help, i did a little, and dating might help some. It seems we have to tell our sad story. But quit telling is as soon as you can.
2006-12-04 06:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was over mine before we actually filed for divorce. That's probably why there was a divorce.
Time will help... if you werent the one wanting the BIG D then Im sure it will take a while to mend. Just remember if your ex couldnt love you the way you deserved to be loved someone else will. All things happen for a reason...
2006-12-04 06:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by bobndew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being in a terrible marriage for over 20 yrs , believe me when I was gone for good I was long since over it . This works different for everyone. Our relationship was a nightmarish one to start with .Over is definately better. I feel better about me and the world and people in it when I am not any where near my ex. We are like poison to each other. Best thing I could have ever done
2006-12-04 06:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 30 seconds! We had been having problems for over 2 years! We were married for 20 years and have two wonderful children. The children were the only thing good that happened out of that marriage. I pray that you will be happy! Things will get better as time goes on. Just have faith!
2006-12-04 07:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by country girl 006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I woke during the night and ask myself what in the world are you feeling bad about and losing weight and looking like hell.
The next night I went out with friends and I wished I had of done that before the divorce was final.
2006-12-04 06:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my case... I was over him before the divorce. Everyone is different and reacts differently to these situations. With my last b/f, it took me over 2 years to get over the breakup. We were together almost 9... and i was not for the breakup, so it depends on the situation.
2006-12-04 06:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After we separated I was down and my mom told me to get off my butt and do something for someone else it would make me feel better. So I went down to the local volunteer ambulance corps and volunteered my time and meet a whole bunch of great people. It was the best thing I ever did. I forgot all about the bum.
2006-12-04 06:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by puggas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need time to get over your ex then maybe you could have worked things out.
2006-12-04 06:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several Years, for some it is over night, for me it took about three and a half years.
2006-12-04 06:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by zipper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can take years, but you will get over it. It is a fact of life as is life and death, growing old, losing your job, and any other major life event. Time, and faith in God, are what heals what ails a person......Take your time.....one day at a time.
2006-12-04 06:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋