Not sexually, but I've been talking to and messing around with an ex-boyfriend. What are the odds of my husband finding out?
2006-12-04 05:59:03 · 31 answers · asked by ... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Higher than you think... much higher.
He'll probably start getting a gut feeling, which will lead to suspicions. He'll notice subtle changes in your behavior, the way you talk, and the way you look at him. Eventually, you will get caught in a small lie, which in your husband's mind will be huge.
Just stop now before someone gets hurt, you lose your husband's trust, and your relationship becomes unnecessarily complicated.
2006-12-04 06:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your questions: there is no way for us to determine the statistical probability of your husband finding out you're in contact with an ex.
I would say that if you are willing to wreck your relationship with your husband, just keep it up. I know if I were your husband and if I found out, I could never truly trust you again. That's not even counting the hurt I would feel.
Your question cannot be answered, but you can do something about your actions. And... know what. I bet your old boyfriend is just looking for "a piece" and if you ever hooked up with him he would not trust you either. Don't be a fool.
TX Guy
2006-12-04 14:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be sexual, but it is cheating. (Infidelity) You are wrong for doing that. If your not happy with your husband or the marriage, you need to talk to him about it and not your ex-boy friend. What kind a person is he messing around with a married woman anyways?
Stop it before you screw up worse than you have already. It's not too late to recover, if you do what is right, right now.
2006-12-04 14:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter, even talking and messing around, you had a relationship with this person before and it is so easy to slip into that moment. Just stop! Obviously something didn't work between you two or you'd still be together- why ruin the new life you started???
2006-12-04 14:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by DM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odds are good that he'll either find out or he'll sense something is wrong. Even if he never really knows the truth as to what is going on, he'll have a sense about it and in a round about way know. Has he been acting weird lately around you or questioning you about anything?
2006-12-04 14:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is why are you talking to you ex? How do you think your husband will feel if he ever found out? Are you looking for a thrill? Please for you husband sake cut the ex off or leave your husband and let him fine a woman that really loves and respects him.
2006-12-04 14:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty damn good, or at least 50/50. Put yourself in your husbands shoes and take a good long look. What would you do in your husbands shoes? I bet he would leave you, and if you have children involved, you need to get over yourself and take care of your children. If your husband loves you and is taking care of you and your children, then you are looking a gift horse in the mouth and you deserve to be dumped by both men.
2006-12-04 14:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by pecksun8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, speaking from personal experience is that, your husband will suspect something, but choose to deny that there's anything going on. I saw so many signs, and i had a hunch but i refused to consider the possiblity, and at night it killed me inside. Emotionally cheating is just as bad as sexually cheating. Put yourself in his situation, and see how it would feel. And how would you like it if he cheated.
2006-12-04 14:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by heyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The odds are pretty good. Even a man can sense when something is up. If you want your marriage to work out then I suggest you stop. If you don't want to be with your husband anymore then I suggest you tell him so he can move on.
2006-12-04 14:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
babe, wake up you are cheating on your husband! you said that you will be with him to have and to hold! I dont even no how you sleep at night. you are cheating on your husband. I mean boyfriend is one thing but a hisband! You have to face it and tell your husband. And if he breaks up with you (aka devorce) then you have to deal with it and you, from what it seems you dont love him anymore so it doesnt matter too much... but he sounds like he is a loyal husband and LOVES you so maybe he wont and you can work through your problems...
2006-12-04 14:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by effie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋