Ok everyone, I am looking for some advice here. Well first of all, these 2 boys who are really good friends both liked me. I only liked one of them, (lets just call the one I liked A) and the other one (lets call the one I dont like R). So anyways R asked me out one day, and I said I would answer at lunch. So the answer was no, because I liked him just as a REALLY good friend. So he was really upset, and eventually cried later =(. Anyways the next day A asked me out! I was really excited and said yes. So now we have been going out for about a month. R is so mad at A that he doesnt even come out at break. But he will talk to me occasionally. And now I'm getting these weird feelings about liking R. But I dont want to go out with R, I just love being around him. But A, my boyfriend now, is a big problem with this because he would be extremely mad if he found out I liked his ex-friend. I need advice PLEASE! I cant even talk to my friends about this.
2006-12-02 13:48:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give me a break. Date them both.
2006-12-02 13:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Curious George 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really young aren't you. Probably not even old enough to be having boyfriends. But since you don't think you are....the only advice I can give you that you will take is...Do whatever you want, If it is wrong, you will learn a lesson the hard way. If it is right then you are getting more mature. We are put here on this earth to learn. You have a LONG way to go. Life is tough...it's even tougher when you are stupid. We ALL have done stupid stuff when we were young. Just know that someday, you will grow up and look back at all this drama and say "OMG I can't believe how stupid I was back then" We all do it.
2006-12-02 21:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know what you mean I have not had any good luck with men lately. Especially since I broke up my ex almost a year ago.
They only want one thing. But go with your heart. In what it tells you. Yes there would a reallllly big problem. I understand. It is not easy being a woman these days.
2006-12-02 23:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mari E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats hard. that happend to me once. wait till u and your boyfriend get in a fight or something then go out with tho other guy.
or how bout this
don't leave the 1that loves u 4 the 1 u like cause the 1 u like will leave u 4 the 1 they love.
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2006-12-02 21:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you miss hanging out with both of them, and that you don't like R, maybe you just miss him? This is complicated. I guess it comes down to whether you would throw away what you have with A for what could happen with R, don't forget, rejection hurts and R could not like you anymore in that way.
2006-12-02 21:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sound like like you need to talk to the one you like and tell him the whole truth and be honest with him because being honest with him is the only way out and if he can except this that would be great just rember you should of been honest with both of these guy so they knew were they stand with you.and you shouldnt be going back and forth with your feeling.
2006-12-02 21:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have second thought then maybe you need some time to think about it. you dont want to hurt the feelings of either guy. it crushes them to hear things about feelings. & decide if your relationship is worth breaking up great friends. good luck hun! hope things work out!:D
2006-12-02 21:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by wonderwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of worrying about what everyone else around you thinks, how about asking yourself what you want?
Defining yourself by other's opinions of you only lessens you as a human. Be yourself, do what you want to do. The rest will follow.
2006-12-02 21:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by websnark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like A really much, you can still date him. For R you can just have him as a friend.
2006-12-02 21:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by mscorio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being single for awhile, take a break from A and R and try just being yourself and focusing on your friends and school and family and important things. than, it will be clearer which guy is right
2006-12-02 21:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by dramateen23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋