Why do women always try to change their boyfriends? if they truly care baout us they should like us for who we are. my GF tells me she doens't like that i'm concieted (even though i'm really not and don't know why she thinks it), and that i'm too messy (which i'm not. i'm just not a neat freak), and that i try to spoil her (which i do) and she doens't liek that and wants me to change. i told her i'll try not to spoil her and try so hard to please her and just be myself but as far as the rest goes its just who i am. any suggestions? and why do wmen do this? i care baout her and accept her little flaws and don't try to change her. i don't get it.
2006-12-02 09:41:00 · 12 answers · asked by DA-LL /Male/ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1st off we've only been going out a few months. she says she does care about me and thats why she's with me but i'm not really her "type" because of what i listed above. I'm not perfect and nobody is. i don't know why women want to throw away good men over little stuff trying to find the perfect guy.
2006-12-02 09:50:24 · update #1
not all girls do that.. but if they do its becaus ethey test them to see if theyre the one for them. if they arent. expect a breakup
2006-12-02 09:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by CourTn3y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think this is what ur expecting but that is probably her way of telling u that she loves u. some women just like change and cant have everything staying the same. either that or she just wants what she cant have.
2006-12-02 17:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by broadwaybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to back off or find a guy with all the qualities she wants already intact. if you dont take control now you will suffer as long as shes around.
2006-12-02 17:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never change a person. A lot of people try to change me and I get really mad.
2006-12-02 17:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Wyst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, i never try to change my husband....i knew how he was from the day i meet him.......if she really loved u then she shouldnt try to change u........i think u should find urself a girl whos going to love u for who u really r......ur lil messy, concieted, love to spoil ur girl ways......lol good luck hun...have a good day
2006-12-02 17:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by ~i love my boys~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants you to change then it is not worth being with her...find someone that accepts who you are...they may have a few problems but they will be overlooked by a true love.
2006-12-02 17:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of complaining about how she is tryin to change you, show her what she thinks is wrong. I mean if you're not messy then show her you're not messy. Understand? It's not that she is tryin to change you....she is worried about you.
2006-12-02 17:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Avie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We just want the best and if "tweaking" what we have helps then we will try and change them!
2006-12-02 17:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's young and inexperienced. Women who have dated for a while know better.
2006-12-02 17:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who simply loves you. If she wants to change you, then she doesn't unconditionally love you.
2006-12-02 17:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋