I work this monday & tuesday allday on each day- so I won't have
off until wednesday. I don;t want to seemmdesparate, but
I think if the girl likes you and wants to go out , it really
won't matter if what day I call.
What should I ask her to do on next date??
Should I ask her??
2006-12-02 09:40:47 · 11 answers · asked by don;t know 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes call her up, like you said, if there is a mutual attraction it won't matter. ask her out for dinner, that's always a safe bet. and even if you can't do anything til wednesday, it's a nice jesture to call and talk. shows you have interest in her and want to get to know her better. desperation only comes when you call multiple times when she doesn't respond or you go to her work without invitation.
2006-12-02 09:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you must call right away, do it on your lunch on Monday. She'll feel less pressure than if you called at night and she would have to carry on a long conversation.
Explain you have only a few minutes to chat and say, "I liked that we had XXXXXXX (fill in that yourself) in common and wanted to see if you'd like to get together for dinner on XXXXXX night (fill in that, too)." You're not saying 'sometime' but rather a specific day/date.
You're taking charge by not saying, "Would you like to go out sometime." then making it up to her to choose the date. You're in charge without being pushy.
If she says she's not available, let it go for now. Tell her you'll call again in a couple of days, do it and ask again at that time. Again, with a specific day/date for her.
If after THREE suggestions for a dinner date she still 'has plans' drop it altogether. Give her your number and don't expect a call back. If it does come, great. Move forward with it.
If she really wanted to see you, she'd suggest an alternate night for dinner. If you are available, agree, and have fun!
Oh, and this is very important, never, EVER agree to meet her and some friends somewhere. Her friends are a huge influence on whether you get the ok or not. Don't let them meet you until after at least a couple of dates. Not even a house party. You need to make an impression on her, not 10 of her friends. You'll never please all of them and all it might take is one to say, "I didn't like him."
2006-12-02 17:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by mme1864 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you should call her. Don't sound too pushy or desperate, though. Just tell her you wanted to let her know what a great time you had and that you'd really love to get together again real soon. That will put the ball in her court, at least for the moment. No time like the present. If you put off calling too long and she liked you, too, she may think you didn't enjoy yourself and feel let down! You'll just never know if you don't call! Good luck!
2006-12-02 17:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to the popular belief... women DO like it when you call promptly. We do not like waiting around. Plus, we totally know it when you do the "3 day rule." I think you should call her today (not too late - within the next hour or so) to touch base and small talk. Tell her you are just calling to say hi and that you were wondering if the two of you can meet up later in the week. Don't ask her to go out with you like, tomorrow - that looks desperate. Just set up plans to do something and tell her that you will call her later in the week to confirm plans. Example: Call today, ask her to go out with you on Friday or Saturday. Wait a few days, then call her on Thursday to make definitive plans. Good Luck
2006-12-02 17:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by EmTay21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do we need to play games all the time? Call her when you figure out what you want to do next... no matter how long (or short) it's been since your last meeting.
Movies are always good because you can decide to go out for coffee or drinks after... and there's no stress about what to talk about... you talk about the movie.
2006-12-02 17:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by lottaqs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you have to just go with the flow. You want to call her? Go ahead. Take her to dinner. No big thing, just want to get to know her and it will just be a nice evening.
Then, if you think you want to continue seeing her, ask her out again next week. I don't think acting like this is going to be an act of desperation. You just have to work around your work schedule and she should know this.
Good luck!!
2006-12-02 17:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Gnome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you can call without looking desperate. I would like a guy to call the next day, it shows he's interested. If you are interested, why play games?
2006-12-02 17:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to call her then call her. If she doesn't like you because you called her then she wasn't worth the call.
When you call her, find out what fun things she likes to do and you'll know what your next date should be based on how she answers.
Be yourself, quit worrying about how you'll look. If she likes you she'll be so happy you called.
2006-12-02 17:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it seems desperate. Tell her what you just typed, be honest. Just ask her if she would like to get together. No where does it say you have to have pre set plans! Have fun!
2006-12-02 17:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by naughty_mattress_monkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ladyw900ldriver is so sexy
date her
YES you can with out looking to bad
good for you
2006-12-02 18:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by dave s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋