Under what circumstances would you forgive your spouse who has been cheating on you for the last three months, until got caught. Or should you ever forgive this person at all ?
2006-12-02 09:12:57 · 22 answers · asked by kenneth h 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it was an ongoing relationship that he had with someone else I would probably never forgive him and it would be over, if it was a one time thing and he was honest with me about it I would forgive him but it would take time for him to gain my trust back but if it happened more than once I would be done.
2006-12-02 09:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably never. I say probably because I must be realistic with this. It's really hard when the only person that can stop your tears is the one that caused them in the first place.
An ongoing "affair" is so much different than a "getting too drunk and making a mistake".
Either way, my trust in the person would be gone. Some of you, I'm sure, could find a way to forgive and move past it. I never would be able to. And if he had cheated more than once, with the same person, that's too much for me to even think about.
When you marry someone, you are saying that they are the only one that you want to be with. Ever. If you don't love your spouse, or you are still feeling the need to be with other people, LEAVE THEM FIRST! You have no business being in a relationship with someone if you are sleeping with other people.
2006-12-02 09:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Emmy F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive my (future) spouse if he cheated on me with time. I have several reasons:
1) Marriage is forever. The only circumstances I would desire a divorce would be if he started physically trying to harm me.
2) Everyone is human, and it is naive to think my spouse wouldn't develop feelings for another human being. There are 6 billion plus people on this planet. It's natural. I'd be pretty pissed because he acted on it, but if he is willing to make the effort to give up the other person and work on the marriage, so will I.
3) I put work into the relationship. He's not getting out of it that easy.
4) My father cheated on my mother throughout my entire childhood. He has two kids with the other woman. My mother stayed true to her marriage as she vowed she would. Guess where he is now? Hopelessly addicted to his wife (my mother)! He realized the error of his ways, and they are happier than they ever have been.
I'm not saying it would be easy, but if I marry someone, it means I'm accepting them, flaws, mistakes, and all.
2006-12-02 09:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's a REALLY deep question. Truthfully, I don't think its the 'forgiveness' part that'd be hard... It's the 'getting past' part (after of course, you've chosen to forgive). It's not hard to look into someones eyes and say "I love you very much, and I forgive you even though you've hurt me"... It's dealing with the days after. Learning (or re-learning) how to trust the person again... I'd suggest counseling... Trust is single handedly 'the' most important part of a relationship, and if you lose that... everything else seems futile. I wish you the best, and hope you get through this... Good luck.
2006-12-02 09:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by monie0078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There aren't any circumstances that would cause me to forgive a cheating spouse!
2015-12-22 11:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by Just Mopar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not easy. Most men cheat on their spouse but the sad fact is that they truly love the woman indoors. The one outside is mere fantasy. How long does a fantasy last. Make sure you keep that home fire burning because home is where his heart is. Hope this makes sense. I have often discussed this point with good male friends and my brothers.
2006-12-02 09:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HECK NO!!!! don't forgive tht person because if you do she'll just do the same thing again, and if she was cheating on you and then all of a sudden she wants you, tell no, cause she found someone better, so she doesn't need you, you can do better then tht
2006-12-02 09:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by DeeDee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive them under any circumstance, but the relationship would be over.
2006-12-02 09:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by You Lames! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say that I could seriously no kidding around hurt him physically if I found out, but in my heart I would want to be with him. No matter how stupid a person can be, if you really loved them you wouldn't immediatley stop loving them if you found out, so it would be natural to want to be with them. But I don't forget and I would make his life completely miserable, and mine, so probably not.
2006-12-02 09:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our policy is to tell the other before it happens. Granted that may not happen, but I don't believe I could forgive either way.
2006-12-02 09:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by E B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋