I'm in love with my (male) friend and I have to let him know before I lose my mind and throw myself on top of him! But how do I tell him, what do I say??? I don't want to scare him away and I don't want him to think he has some kind of power over me. What would you do??
2006-12-02 08:39:55 · 19 answers · asked by Mountaineer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Id tell him i like him but i wouldnt tell the love part JUST yet to see how he reacts to the like part, but if all goes well then let him know how u feel, but in a controlled way, dont throw ur self all ova him unless he wants u to cos u may make urself look lyk a desparate mess...for all you know, he loves you too, life is about chances, so take it gurl...good luck.
PS.POD, love aint that easy, if it was there wouldnt be so many broken hearts, u never know someone completely so of course this woman is gna fear over his reactions, its only natural.
2006-12-02 09:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by ladee_in_luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you also have sex with your bf? How sure are you that the ex is the father? If you are sure, then you MUST tell him. Will he freak? Probably, but he knew that he was carrying dynamite when he lit the fuse! Now he's entitled to know, entitled to visitation, and entitled to pay child support for the next 18 years. ( see what a little indiscretion gets you!) Be prepared for a DNA challenge, though, and do it very ladylike. You don't want to destroy this guy's life if he is NOT the father. Be prepared to LOSE your bf, either way. You did a BAD thing, and you can't blame him if he dumps you. He may legitimately ask why he should be expected to raise another man's child with a woman he can't trust to keep her legs together! You need to be very contrite here, young lady, if you expect to have any kind of relationship with either of these guys. Go gangbusters on them, and they will both flee to the hills!
2016-03-13 01:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could say something along the lines of we are such good friends that I wonder if maybe we are a little more than just friends. He might be surprised, he might be relieved, he might back away but then you'll have an idea. It will probably change things at least a little.
I liked a male friend and finally e-mailed him and told him. To this day he has never said how he feels in return. He still calls me to talk and we e-mail still but we keep it all about work, friends we have in common, etc. and just kind of act like it didn't happen. He has said when he can't handle things he ignores them and he has been true to his word.
2006-12-02 09:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he freak out? If you are good friends, can you just not have a conversation over this? How is having someone in love with you a case of having power over them? You really do have some strange mixed up ideas about love and relationships..
You have two choices, just walk up to him and plant a kiss on his mouth or talk to him as a friend and ask him if he feels there could be more than friendship between you.
2006-12-02 08:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I told a guy I was attracted and that is what happens, they think they got the upper hand. So, instead of saying "I like you too" or "I don't feel the same way" he started to play games. And after a round or two of that it sunk in that I was better off without this guy. The games just destroyed any appeal he held for me.
2006-12-02 08:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a tough question without knowing more. You have to ask yourself though, if he really liked you wouldn't he have said something to you by now if he was half the man you hope him to be. If he doesn't really like you then don't ruin a good friendhip!
2006-12-02 08:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by mharbot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an adult, tell him. If you are a teen, then please, just flirt with him. I have no way to tell if he will think he has some power over you. Only you can prevent that. I am an adult and I would address the situation head on.
2006-12-02 08:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about "Have you ever thought that we could be more than just friends?"
See what he does, I think he'll get the message pretty quick.
2006-12-02 08:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my best friend he was lovely-
Then we got it together and he turned into a complete s*it-Was violent and controlling.
Divorce comes through xmas eve !!!!!!!!!
2006-12-02 08:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, It will only end in tears. can you stand the rejection? the upset that you may cause?. Look if he likes you, you would know it.
2006-12-02 08:46:55 · answer #10 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋