My married female friend had this single male admirer from work. They flirted around at work and such for close to a year. Even talked on the phone and IM on the computer. All this went on for close to a year. Then finally when she decided she would make a move and asked him if he wanted to get to know each other better, he started to avoid her.... Why would he pursue a married woman and then chicken out at the last minute? keep in mind, he was telling her how sexy she was and everything all the time and then all of a sudden, ... nothing! why would a guy do this?
2006-12-02 08:32:21 · 20 answers · asked by BUTTERFLY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to make sure you women know that we're still on top!
actually i have no clu, maybe to him he wasn't flirting, but to her it seemed like he was.
2006-12-02 08:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was at work at wa just flirting and keeping on. He had no intention to take this to the next level. The flirt and the talk was all he wanted. To make her feel special and talk sweet to her. I have a wife at home but it is nice to flirt around at work and tell some of the women how great they are. Most seem to like the attention and it is a common thing. But for most people we do not want to go further and cause trouble at her house or ours. Just innocent flirting.
2006-12-02 08:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just someone that he could "play" with and he doesn't really want to get serious with her. To many complications. I'm not at all saying this was right. They were both in the wrong. She's married! Or maybe he has someone else or he could've had someone else all the time that he was dating, engaged to etc. Either way they should not have had this going on. I'm sorry that she got hurt but she's married. If she is having problems, and it sounds like she is she needs to get some marriage help, counseling or something of that sort. Hope this helps.
2006-12-02 08:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, flirting is a pass time. Being the other man or other woman is what happened. Your female friend needs her priorities in order. She has a man at home and she wonders why this one dropped her like a hot potato? So she's sexy and he is giving her positive strokes. That's good for the MARRIAGE! She needs to understand rules and limitations of a true gentleman. Sorry, she's lucky he didn't tell her man.
2006-12-02 08:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think this guy was just in it for the chase, and when he got a reaction, backed off. Either that, or hubby found out and gave him a shake down. Being this gals friend, I would strongly advise her to stop her cheating. If she's so unhappy with what she's got at home, she needs to do something about it, not flirt with another guy. While I understand how good it must feel to get hit on by another guy, it's another thing to respond. <*)))><
2006-12-02 08:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FEAR.
It's all good when it's just on the computer and a flirt here and there. But if he see's that it's starting to get serious or that it could be serious, he's probably scared. He probably doesn't want any issues to occur w/her husband if they were to get serious. Same issue if a woman was "just flirting"w/a married man. If he wanted to pursue it further, she wouldn't because of FEAR.
2006-12-02 08:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first let me say the guy did her a favor by rejecting her it May have save her marriage. maybe he got a conscience after a year and stopped before they both got into trouble. or maybe he was married and did not want to messed up with his wife. Either way it turned out for the best.
2006-12-02 08:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like this one tends to like a challenge. Try to get something they can't have. This guys obviously liked to see how far he could get to your friend. There was really no intention to get to know her.
He was just using your friend to some attention and perhaps some attention. He didn't want any strings attached. Your female got too close.
2006-12-02 08:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably did not want a "relationship", just the friendship. Your friend trying to take it to the next level obviously read more into it than she should have and unfortunately has now placed herself and the man in an awkward situation.
2006-12-02 08:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably already involved with someone and he just wanted to:
A. flirt and see if he could get away with it.
B. get a thrill out of it.
C. fulfill a fantasy but then decided not to go through with it.
D. all of the above.
I can't really think of any other reasons unless he recently began questioning his sexual orientation.
2006-12-02 08:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Russell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Challenge. Guys like a challenge. They want to see if you are willing and if you are sometimes its not as exciting. You know you can now but they like the cchallege of trying. Once they know they change and move on sometimes to the next challenge.
2006-12-02 08:36:06 · answer #11 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋