If you went out with a man and his sexual performance was more of a sprint than a marathon, how would you address the problem without hurting his feelings?
2006-12-02 08:25:49 · 27 answers · asked by Stripper 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1st answerer, every race is a sprint
2006-12-02 08:28:23 · update #1
The first time with someone new is intimadating! It puts alot of stress on a guy! Give him a couple more chances. Try having a few drinks before sex next time, it helps ALOT!!!!!!
2006-12-02 08:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Problem with a lot of guys is that they just don't know what they are doing. Yes, they get off. but If he's going way too fast, then you must be just lying there and taking it. You Both are responsible for what goes on under the sheets. Tell him to stop. You want to try something different. Different position, or put in a video, or get a glass of wine, what ever. And you have to prepare a little ahead of time, by making a "list" if you want to call it that. Every time you think he is going to fast, tell him to stop for a moment and then go to the next item on your list.
YOur man needs some self control, and YOu need to stop thinking sex is like some kinda passive thing!
Skip the conversation and potentially hurting his feelings, just do what I told you. He won't ever know the difference, and you get points for being creative in bed - men love that. NOw aren't we all happy?
2006-12-02 08:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by missaprilflower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fell off my chair at Peace Keepers answer. So are you willing to take advice from someone like me who obviously can't call herself a lady LOL.
If so i'd say take the lead for a while, totally take control, don't let him get away with speeding things up. Push him back subtly and slow things down. Show him how you want things done. Actions always speak louder than words and they're less confidence denting. Eventually he'll learn what you like and follow your lead, if he doesn't then he's very selfish and not worth your time i'm afraid.
2006-12-02 08:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Georgie's Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you`re looking for and how much time you are willing to offer.
I must admit that when I first met my bf, for the first couple of months we had the same problem. Really frustrating!! But with patience and confidence, everything has changed for the best.
So if you`re really into him and you want to build a relationship with this guy, give it some more time and see what happens. If not.... you knowbetter what you have to do!
2006-12-02 08:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by DarkChoco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had similar problems in the past. They do seem to get a bit on the touchy side if you talk to them. Guiding them is the best thing to try. If they don't get that, then maybe it's time to move on. Some of them won't even get it if you do talk to them. So, if you're not really into him and he hasn't gotten it w/ hinting during the act then on with your life. There are others, ya know?
2006-12-02 09:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by mauiniki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a next time, you need to take the lead and make him prolong the moment. I don't know that there is any subtle way to make a conversation about it. That will likely be setting yourself up to be criticized and unless you are prepared to take that risk, I would sustain. If you are not emotionally attached, which it doesn't appear that you are otherwise you could talk openly with your mate, then ditch him.
2006-12-02 08:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't unless it was becoming a long-term relationship. Then I would ask him to take it a little slower and show what I liked. Listen, maybe the guy hasn't been out in a while. Give him a chance.
2006-12-02 08:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are these Durex condoms which have a substance in them to temporarily numb his sensations so he takes a bit longer to climax. I know it can be frustrating for you but also try to see the flattering side...
2006-12-03 00:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by Little One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i really liked him then i'd suggest different things we could try in the bedroom to spice things up or the women will have to always take control!
2006-12-02 08:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think i would, i think the next time we did it, i would try and improve his proformance myself by gettin him to pleasure me before i pleasured him... that way none of us went home dissapointed.
I think by tellin him would mk him feel even more crap than he prob already felt at the time... (That is if he noticed he didnt proform very ermmm Long)
2006-12-02 08:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by Loving and loved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋