He is brutal, a maniac and rarely home in time and does not provide for the family yet you still saty on. What keeps you going even when you can clearly see that he wont change?
2006-12-02 08:19:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some woman are afraid to be alone....or figure they can't support themselves......so they figure they don't have any other choice....
2006-12-02 08:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was pretty dodgy like that. At first I stuck around because I liked the fire - I'd been stagnant and feeling nothing for so long, it was nice to feel anything at all. Then I started thinking that the first relationship is where you make all the mistakes, and that this guy was so rotten I could make all the mistakes I liked and he deserved it. That, and everyone around me had rotten relationships too, and it looked like it didn't get much better than that. Then I found I just didn't like the person I was becoming, able to hit my partner and enjoy it (he started it, by the way - I wouldn't dream of hitting a decent guy). So I left and never looked back.
My advice is never to enter a relationship expecting the other person to change (my ex wanting me to change - of all things - was where most of our arguments started). It just doesn't work.
2006-12-03 06:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a female cop and had to see women do this daily.
Most of them simply don't want to be alone or don't have the finances (without his) to keep up a household. Divorce takes a while- and can be expensive- especially from a guy w/ that kind of track record, and how do you live? Much less provide stuff for your kids- clothes, lunches, presents for them, or for b-day parties they may want to go to, co-pays, gas, food, bills, diapers (maybe) rent...yeh- the guy may suck, but if he does work he contributes more than she would have without him...
Are YOU ready to take care of her? Do you know why she hasn't asked for help from her family- Usually pride gets in the way of her asking for help- Given that there is anyone in the position to help- (space, money, time, etc...)
Pray for her and be a friend- When the time comes, tell her about places (You can be educating yourself about ) like Family & children services, WIC, welfare to work,local churches (will sometimes help with food or money, emergency shelters, etc .
2006-12-02 16:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned a family. So that can be part of it. And some people just stay in something bad because they know nothing else and are scared of what else there could be, not realizing nothing is sometimes better than something...instead of the other way around!
2006-12-02 16:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We hang on hoping that the light will come on and he will turn into a wonderful caring human being until all the hope finally dies. Part of it may be that we're unwilling to let ourselves admit we made a big mistake and believe there's someone out there who is decent and we can make it on our own.
2006-12-02 16:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me really i would of been on left but i guess other girls think its true love and some think they cant find anyone better but sometimes the situation is that they are stuck in that relationship and they cant get out.
2006-12-02 16:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would of left a long time ago but us women will say "it's because I love him"
2006-12-02 16:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Serioulsy, if I was in that situation, I would leave and take custody of my kids.
2006-12-02 16:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because at one point in life he was great and gave everything he can to make her happy... or don't want to be lonely... or its the only thing she knows... or LOVE IS REALLY BLIND!
2006-12-02 16:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by lala15 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the hope that may be he will change soon and if that happends it will be so great that it will make u forget everything else...
2006-12-02 16:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋