My boyfriend was going through my cell phone and questioned me about a number, I told him that I didn't know (it wasn't an answered call, but I really knew it was my ex calling and still didn't answer it), so he proceeded to call it to find out, where I admitted who it was. He is pissed that I lied to him, so automatically assumes I must be lying about other things, I guess. He even had me call my ex infront of him to tell him to stop calling me, which I had no problem with. He hasn't spoken to me in 3 days so I don't know if he's broken up with me or not over this. Any ideas? Preferably, how to fix this? Or if I should even bother?
2006-11-29 13:35:54 · 13 answers · asked by Fawnie, Baby Deer, Little Deer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should have been completely honest with him in the first place. Relationships are built on trust and you start at zero in a new relationship and build up trust as time goes on. Since you were not completely honest you go back to zero. All you do is apologize and tell him no matter how incriminating something seems that you will just be completely honest with him in the future. Good luck :)
2006-11-29 13:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by questioningly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say why bother why you ask, because if you would have told him he would have been pissed if you would not have told him he would have been pissed. Then when he found out that he was your ex, at least he could have had respect for the fact that you did not answer the phone. And the fact that he made you call the ex in front of him to make sure he did not call you again shows that he has low self esteem and that he does not trust you. But only you know the logistics of the relationship so you do what is best for you. If you want to fix it truly, call him and suck up kiss his *** and all that good stuff that is what he wants you to do anyway, beg for his forgivness, but remember if you do this he will think that he has the upper hand and that he can control you.
2006-11-29 21:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your b/f going through your phone in the first place. It's your phone. You did lie to him and tell him you didn't know and really you should just be honest with him, but unless you ask him to call the number back he has no right to do that. There seems to be a little insecurity in his life. Think about this for a little bit, you are the only one that can find the answer for you. Do you want to have a relationship with a person that is that insercure. Did you give him a reason not to trust you besides this lie and can you be honest with him from here out. His insecurity will put a damper on your relationship because he will be questioning you all the time, jealousy gets worse and worse. do you really want to deal with that. Good luck
2006-11-29 21:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like your boyfriend has some trust issues? you should ask him if there something you guys need to talk about....
insecurity is so not cute! I wish people would act right especially boys that call them selves men. You need to give it some time, let him call you. Sometimes guys vent longer then girls would, and when you do start to talk to him? don't question him just ask if you guys can get together to talk out the problem... alone not in public.
Good luck to you and your relationship!
2006-11-29 21:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by PandGbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation sounds almost exactly the same as one that I was in not too long ago!! It sounds just by how you explained it that your boyfriend does not trust you - if he did then he wouldn't have questioned the number in your phone. People in relationships sometimes forget that you are still your own person - you reserve your right to privacy!! So, all in all, Im saying the person who needs help here is your boyfriend....!! He needs to learn to trust you or he will lose you.
2006-11-29 21:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't even bother, but you lied to him...when you move on to another guy, break it off with the ex's...you really shouldn't let a guy make you do anything, like call an ex...he didn't believe you care for him..you don't have to prove anything....but I say move on..he will never trust you...now...after that...let him call you..don't call him..you already proved to him how much you care by calling your ex...relax...
2006-11-29 21:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway you can show your b/f that the call was unanswered? Sweets, if he can't trust you then there really is no reason in being with him. If he loves you, he will believe you. He might still doubt it, but prove him wrong and see if you can show him you never answered it.
2006-11-29 21:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just come out and tell him 'yes my ex did call me but I did not answer it' and tell him you were trying to spare his feelings, that is why you lied and that you're sorry....Tell him the truth it would be easier in the long run...if he still is mad....then give him space Im sure he'll come around.....he just to soak it in and forgive....Dont stress too much....Good Luck....
2006-11-29 21:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by iadoremarilyn86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that petty I would forget him and look of a new BF. Everyone has Ex's and problems can arrise from them. I think he should be more understanding, maybe he has something to hide and insecure about it. cheers
2006-11-29 21:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by flightmedicine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is he going through your phone to begin with? you told him it was your ex you asked your ex not to call and he is still pouting like a baby
you did what he asked I wouldn't do anymore.
2006-11-29 21:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋