Why is she being like this?Serious answers only pls....What should I do???Read all....Advice?

Question

We’ve not spoken for 5 days now-what should I do??The last thing she said to me was:

She said friends don’t take time apart from each other,that I should get a 1)“grip”, for me to 2)“sort my head out” and to stop causing this 3)“conflict”---MEANING?

Will she get in touch?What she thinking/feeling?What should I do???

PREVIOUS INFO:
I got too close to my female friend and I told her I had feelings for her. She decided it wud be best to remain friends.Also said:

1) "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" MEANING???
2)"I don't deserve your feelings"? MEANING???

Positive or negative comments? Significant?

I then told her a few weeks later that I needed some time away from her and she DISAGREED\WAS RUDE TOWARDS ME as a result---does it mean anything???Why?

My reason was that she was behaving odd towards me and I thought it best we have some time apart.Especially for me to get over my feelings.

Have said I value our friendship and I mean that.

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Answer 1

Dumbo she wants to feel secure before she tells u about her life ,to b straigth she wants to lean her head on ur shoulder n ur 100% confused about her feelings apart frm the fact she is quite clear n ready to open.she needs commitment b4 entering into a relationship "that u wud take it seriously". Actually she wants to show her feelings but being a shy / sensitive girl she cant open up and it luks she behaves / talks like a stupid.

Great thing is, " wen she asks u 2 stay with her ", u talk about staying apart . she seems to b very sensitive girl n u hve to b very patient and senti while dealing with her. but REMEMBER u must b honest all the time.

take her out ,sumwhere , u cud talk to her n convince her ur serious. As well as ur feelings for her r more than friendship n watever may happens or had happened in the past is not going to change ur true feelings 4 her.but remember always be honest bcoz sensitive people cud read ur thoughts far more easily than others. n sumtimes their reactions r weired.

com'n u must accept the fact UR IN LV n she too has great feelings for u .GO n ENJOY the greatest feel on earth

Answer 2

Firstly well done for having the courage for telling her how you feel. By the sounds of what she is was saying "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" etc she is trying to let you down gently. I think she really does see you as a genuine friend and nothing more. And unfortuantly, once your in the friend zone, your not gonna get out of that at all. trust me!

Secondly, you did well by suggesting some time apart. It can be awkward trying to make more out a friendship and you may feel you need time to yourself just to be yourself and clear your head out. The fact that she wants to remain close friends is a testament to how much she values your friendship. From now on i would not text her at all. I know its really tempting but you need to give her space. She clearly values your friendship and she wont want this to end. if you havent heard from her in a couply more days, just drop her ONE un-intrusive text, just asking how shes been. What you must not do is text her over and over if she doesnt reply. You will only seem too pushy. She may well be giving you the space you need (as you were the one who asked for the space) She may very well be watching her phone desperate to text you and see if your ok. If this is the case that one text from you will mean the world to her, and i woudlent be suprised if she text back right away. Do bear in mind that you will probery get a lot of mixed advise from here, the best judgement will always be your own, so just do what your comfortable with, and what you really belive is the best thing for the both of you. Best of luck mate.

Answer 3

Alrighty babe, I hate to tellya, but she's not physically attracted to you.

She absolutely loves your personality and your friendship, but the moment you said you wanted more she freaked because she doesn't reciprocate and doesn't want to hurt you...or lose you.

Right now, she is annoyed because you've changed the rules of the game. She was rude because you're being dramatic with wanting time apart. To her, it is unneccessary.

If things were weird, then you should've done your best to return to the way you were before you asked her for more. Make things as if you had never said anything. FAGGEDABOUDIT as they say.

My suggestion to you is to give her space. When she is over it, she'll call you to make up. At the very least, "space" is what you wanted in the first place. So now you have it...take it.

If for some reason you don't hear from her for about, say, 2 weeks...give her a buzz. Be light. Be breezy. Try to refrain from mentioning the weirdness. If you do mention it, it should only be not to talk about it.

Things will iron themselves out.

Good luck!!

Answer 4

Oh dear. You made a bit of a boo boo. to answer your questions -get a grip sort your head out stop causing this conflict at guess she a bit pissed with you for overstepping the boundary and jeopardising the friendship.

It hard to remain just friends when you know the other person has "feelings.

as to the rest you can try to rekindle the friendship as though nothing has ever happend but you have to accept the fact that things will probably never be the same.

Answer 5

I am an attractive woman who has had many close male friends. Some of them were even my best friend, and we spent a lot of time together.
But when it comes down to it, most male friends that a girl has would sleep with her, and have thought about it...
Women on the other hand, do not think so much about it. My best friend D once told me that he had feelings for me and when I sort of brushed it off and said I just wanted to be friends, he got distant..
He pretty much threw away a really good friendship, over his male hormones.
There are plenty other girls to have feelings for, why ruin a friendship.

Answer 6

She said friends don’t take time apart from each other,that I should get a 1)“grip”, for me to 2)“sort my head out” and to stop causing this 3)“conflict”---MEANING?

Meaning: She's needy and insecure and wants your attention regardless of how you feel.

1) "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" MEANING???

Meaning: She needs your attention regardless of how you feel. She's more concerned about her potential loss, than your pain/uneasiness about continuing as friends.

2)"I don't deserve your feelings"? MEANING???

Meaning: Probably just putting herself down to make you feel better. Could be a sign of deeper insecurity?

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The whole "getting upset at you needing time apart" is where it gets disturbing. You asked for something reasonable and understandable and she responds with anger. If she gave a damn about how you felt, she'd understand you need some time to sort things out. But again, she's only concerned about HER loss. She desires your attention - maybe because she's not getting it anywhere else in her life?

Sounds like she's selfish and insecure. There may be a reason for this that is valid.

Just remember (to turn her words back on her) real friends don't make ultimatums to each other. Real friends freely give each other their time, not demand it from one another.

Answer 7

I think some of you people answering are giving this guy a hard time. How many guys would take the time to write down their question, let alone their feelings for the world to read? Bravo buddy, there should be more guys like you.

Maybe it's best just to set it aside and let her cool off for a week or two. Us girls are strange. We like guys better sometimes after they ignore us. Why? I have no idea.

Based on what you've said it sounds to me like she might have feelings for you as well based on her angry response to you saying you'd like some time apart. Did you explain WHY you wanted some time apart? If not, that might make the difference.

Buck up, little camper.

Answer 8

Take a break clear your head stop lwtting this issue rule your life

have a weekend away do something to get away from your regular routine.

Don't ignore her be polite and say hi just avoid talking about this.

Get it all off your chest via letter or email write down your hopes fears feelings and what you want then leave it to her.

if she is worth any bother she will come to you and talk when she is ready

Life is far to short to try analyse things and spend it saying What if and But

Answer 9

Seems to me that you've been good friends for a long time?? You've developed other feelings for her and she views you as a friend - sorry may not be what you want to hear but it's the way it comes across to me. Which is why I think she's being odd towards you. And when you say you need time away from her 'to sort out your head' it probably is what you need - but to her that's not what she wants/needs cos she'll miss you as a mate and doesn't need to sort out her head so she can't see it's what you need.

Answer 10

Why bother with her at all ,,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting ,,, Not loaded with all this crap ,,,, You are beating your head against the wall ,,,, There are allot of fish in the pond ,,,, Go fishing and find someone that comes problem free ,,,, You'd be better off ,,,,, As it is right now you are just feeding her ego and she's getting off on that ,,,, How much longer are you going to let her use you ,,,, If she cared anything about you at all then she'd be bending over backwards to show you how much she cares ,,,, Don't be her fool ,,,, Go fishing ,,,,