And she's lived in the US with my Dad (who's American) and us children for about 20 years.
Anyway, all her social atmosphere/feelings deal with mainly Thailand. Her main, maybe only real involvement, in US culture is doing house-cleaning-related stuff. Otherwise, she's still very much into Thailand for the whole time, and watches Thai TV via satellite, reads Thai magazines, talks to her friends/relatives via the phone, etc.
I can see why and I feel sympathy for her situation in the US, since she isn't educated (didn't start/finish high school in Thailand) and doesn't share any American cultural aspect to her views/personality.
So anyway, I think that she's depressed here and would much rather be in Thailand among her own kind. My Dad is an attorney and could be willing to move there, as long as he finds a good job there teaching as a professor in a university, working for a multi-national corporation, etc.
Should my parents move to Thailand?
2006-11-27
11:06:36
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My Mom definitely is depressed/unhappy about being in the US, and I think that she wants to end up in Thailand.
We have a house in Thailand that my Dad built, and she has relatives/friends there.
I can continue living in the US and I'll probably marry an American girl, but in the meantime, would it be best for me to open discussion with my Mom/Dad about my Mom's feelings in the US and a possible move to Thailand for them?
2006-11-27
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Well as you say that your dad already has a house built in Thailand it should not be too hard for your parents to move back to Thailand. Your father seems like a very qualified person so I am sure with some looking he will find employment. If your dad is willing to do this I think it would make your mom a lot happier, but on the downside would she be depressed about being seperated from you and you her? There is a possibility it is a no win situation. I hope that something can be resolved where all of you are happy. Good luck!
2006-11-27 11:24:01
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answered by Janine E 4
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This is a very difficult question. My feeling is that after twenty years, if she hasn't integrated more, she probably won't. If your dad could move there and adapt himself, then they probably could be happy. However, she could find that Thailand has changed significantly since she left - she should be sure to talk a lot with her friends and visit before making any irrevocable decisions. If your parents want to make another go at staying in the U.S., then maybe you could find a club, a cooking club or another of her interests, outside the home where she could meet new people. If English is a barrier at all, maybe a private tutor would be less daunting than an ESL class. I widh you and your family all the best!
2006-11-27 11:12:09
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answered by cotopaximary 4
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i think they should move. it seems clear she's been very homesick for a long time, and your father has already expressed ways he'd be willing to carry out the move, certain jobs he'd be interested in, etc. i think you should start a conversation with them about it, be honest about what you've observed, and talk about the things you've mentioned here, such as they have a house there already, and that your father seems willing to move. also it sounds like you're okay with being left in the states, and they probably need to know that, they may think they can't leave you, or that you wouldn't want them to go. let them know you're an adult, that you can take care of yourself, and it really would make you happy to see them happy. your mom has been yearning for thailand for far too long, perhaps this discussion would help her to make a mental decision, to stay and finally be relaxed in her adopted home, or for them to move to thailand for the rest of their days, and be happy there. whatever they decide, they can only be grateful to you for showing you care, and thailand is such a beautiful country! perhaps you'll end up there too!
2006-11-27 11:27:08
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answered by bee 1
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What an techniques-blowing question!! positioned the shoe on the different foot, and you get a raffle to start determining new techniques. shall we've a bypass then. i do no longer particularly understand for specific what the expats do in different worldwide places yet i think that it varies in accordance to the way of existence of the host u . s . a . and its way of existence. i've got long been a believer which you're able to have many distinctive physically powerful homestead cultures worldwide, so as which you're able to have variety and variety obtainable (eg fish & chips from united kingdom, paella from spain, pizza from Italy, curry from India, hen fried rice from china etc). those homestead cultures could then have the potential to play host to different distinctive (very nearly targeted visitor) cultures, so as that the host community gets to journey them besides. although those so observed as targeted visitor cultures are coming from different places, and in those places you will additionally desire that way of existence to be the host. needless to say you subsequently desire many distinctive hosts to be physically powerful and robust and assured as a fashion to maintain the supply of those varieties of distinctive flavours in the worldwide, because of the fact in any different case there's a threat that each and every thing would finally end up a similar and alter into unbearably boring. This variety of confident host cultures worldwide protecting their unique identities then, jointly as the emmigrant communities carry that outwards to be travellers someplace else, in all hazard does not adventure as much as the present fashions and expectancies of integration and multiculturalism, yet whilst shall we practice that looking the splendid stability will certainly safeguard different cultures, then we would have a platform from which to attitude this concern. it particularly is a disgrace that extra cultures worldwide can not be extra confident approximately their identity, because of the fact there is plenty variety to pleased with in the worldwide on the 2d, and that i worry that if we gained't get onto a social gathering of that quickly, we would start up seeing too plenty merging / fusion and the shortcoming of a number of unique, unusual and powerful minority cultures.
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answered by ? 4
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if i was in your shoes, i would talk with my parents about how she is feeling, and even investigate the job market there for your father in the areas he would be interested in working in. i don't know how old you are, on whether you have to move with your parents, or an adult and its your choice to do so. either way i definitely would go in visit them as much as you can.
2006-11-27 11:18:01
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answered by crafty lady 2
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they probably should
or stay here and get with Thai culture more
if everybody is happy, why does she have to change?
2006-11-27 11:09:28
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes. You should go home every chance you get.
2006-11-27 11:09:20
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answered by aprillindee 2
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