here is the story....we have been friends starting in may, and well....things went very slowly until we finally slept together in july - so basically two months. now i know it is wrong, so i dont need to hear that part. but her finace doesnt do anything for her, i had a girlfriend who cheated on me three times, and i finally gave up on the third time. now, she is planning to be with him even though she doesnt want him at all. she is afraid of hurting the family side and not worrying about her happiness. this guy doesnt touch her, do her..basically the OLD married (but not yet) couple. my heart wants her and she already says that she wants me, so i think that the green light is on for me to ask. ive never been married, and in the 9 yrs of relationships ive had, i havent come across someone like her. i think i should throw all my chips into the pot and ask. i dont want the "what if" to be with me forever. if she stays with him, so be it. but i tried right? so what's wrong with this-me?
2006-11-26 09:23:45 · 6 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she doesn't want to be with her fiance then she should break off the engagement first before you do any asking. Until she does that, you have no say in it. It is still her choice.
2006-11-26 09:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it would be better to talk her into calling it quits with this other guy, let her regain her dreams and then ask. Right now you want her to jump out of his fire pot right into yours. What if it is the committment thing that has her so confused she isnt sure what to do. Just dont force a woman into anything cause it never works and youll definitely be the loser here. Be the friend that stands by her thru this, nothing more or she will see you as the same kind of guy shes engaged to now. Let it be her idea to call it quits. Not the easiest situation to be in but the best for all involved
2006-11-26 17:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly loved the guy she is going to marry, she wouldn't of NOT slept with you! So, she is going into a marriage being dishonest. Now, you want to marry someone knowing this, even tho you were the other guy! So, don't you think if she cared for you, she would REALLY end it with the other guy, NO matter what? Were talking about marriage here, a life long commitment. Don't let yourself be blinded by lust, if it were meant to be, you would not be waiting for left overs! Your better than that aren't you??
2006-11-26 17:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did you would be disrespecting her in the worst way possible. help her see she is making a mistake but make sure you are doing it for the right reason. don't let your feelings for her cloud your judgment.
2006-11-26 17:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry dude , but you are in the wrong situation here. you want her to love you but she doesn't, she is with someone else and you need to let go. even if you think she is unhappy.
2006-11-26 17:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by duncabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her all she can say is no, but if I was you I would go for it.
2006-11-26 17:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by larlonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋