How can we break the cycle ???I think we may just not be meant to be since we cant work it out even after therapy.We went to the same elemetary shcool.We became friends when i was 10 and him13 Anyway highschool we dated on and off but broke up when i was in my last year.We met up again when i was 19 in college i got pregnant and we married it was hell it lasted 2 years before we seperated and we divorced the next year.I graduated college and we tried again to make it work after 7 trys we remarried again.We have been married a 1 1/2 now and i am now 25 yrs old and he is 28.We cant agree on anything .Everything is a fight and we have a daughter.
2006-11-26 08:48:13 · 9 answers · asked by Jessia h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If we end it again which is possible i dont want more fights again and i want a frienship for our daughter shake.
2006-11-26 08:50:08 · update #1
I f you fight about everything then you're actually fighting about nothing. You should try to pick and choose your battles. Every little thing shouldn't end in a fight. Try compromising sometimes and just agree to disagree on certain issues. Your child's best interest should come first and if you're fighting in front of her that is not a good thing. Remember that you are teaching your daughter how a relationship should be...she' learning that from the 2 of you. If you can't get help to stop it then I would consider separating for the good of your daughter.
2006-11-26 08:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a marriage much like that. Nothing but arguing, even before I married. I should have never married this person. I've been divorced now for 6 years and am a much happier person. Luckily, I divorced when my children were very young so they adjusted to the situation very well. If you can work out your relationship then that would be great, but its never good to remain in an unhappy marriage. Also, DON'T stay in the marriage for the sake of the kids. If they see their parents constantly fighting that will be more damaging in the long run for them. You have some tough choices to make - good luck!
2006-11-26 09:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by tranquil1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two practically grew up as brother and sister. At this point in time, you two have spent more time together and probably have done more things than most married couples. Growing up together was probably what hurt you guys. You knew each others weaknesses and strengths and secrets long before your were out of high school. You really had nothing to look forward to, you had no other experiences which mold us into adults. You two would have been better off remaining friends instead of pushing it farther and expecting more, which is probably why you two are better off divorced and will remain forever friends, even if you have a daughter between you. Youre probably right that this was one of those things that wasnt meant to be. Good luck
2006-11-26 09:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound hopeful and it sounds like you've really tried hard to make it work. Is it possible that you can be friends..and be good parents to your daughter? Guess I think that if either party in a relationship feels they're being forced to make compromises that don't feel right (in the soul sort of way) it simply won't work or both will live lives that aren't very happy at all. The child..maybe if you focused on your child and being there for her and NOT fighting in front of her. That might work.
2006-11-26 08:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by twinkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you have put more into this marriage than he has.
The attempts have not been in vain at least now you know what your life will be like 40 years from now. Is it worth wasting your life for and ruining your daughter for. The arguments she will think is a normal thing. Do you want her treated by men like that too? I feel the best thing for you and daughter is to start a new and be much more selective next time.
2006-11-26 09:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things in the past, I love some of the memories, but then I hate how others worked out.
2016-05-23 05:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him and share what you just said. you have been wiling to be with him,but things havent worked out. you want to be friends for your daughter sake.
2006-11-26 08:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish u the best ..........the fighting isnt good for your child
2006-11-26 08:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you havnt triend hard enough mabey.
2006-11-26 08:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by question man 911 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋