my mom told me that when i was a baby my dad didnt want to pay child support and denied me and tried to take away my life(i dont want to say kill because it's to harsh for me to handle) i wish i had a dad that cared! a dad who protects his little girl from boys who she dates and that those type of things that you see on t.v shows but its to late.
2006-11-26 08:33:12 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm so sorry that your dad tryed to do that to you. I hope you can feel better soon, Try to think about it this way, If your dad doesn't want any part of you, then why should you want anything to do with him?! Don't worry, it'll be okay, I know you want a good Dad, but maybe when you get a boyfriend, he'll be the one to protect you from other guys! HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER SOON!
2006-11-26 08:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is very insensitive, perhaps she's still bitter about raising you alone and felt the need to share some unwarranted information with you about your dad. I know, my son is in the same situation and I haven't had a good school year yet (he's 14 now...). Trust that God will deliver you from your depression and pray that the right person will come into your life to make you feel protected, safe and very well loved, it's never too late...
I'll be praying for your mom, she really needs to watch what she says with you. I believe family counseling can help to resolve some old issues in order to have a better understanding of what expectations you should have in a mate in the future. Stay Blessed.
2006-11-26 08:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it too heavy. This will probably be unclear forever. But do not let this shut you down or shut your drive as a person down. Keep your cool and write off the losses and bad times in life. You are here now, and some things just need to be passed off. And remember, there are other people with this same exact problem - and life is not a a television show. Instead of wishing for something you must accept, search for a husband one day who will display the qualities of the man you wanted your father to be. Good luck sweetie.
2006-11-26 08:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by CJ Major 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ur dad did wasn't right at all, but guess what, what he did shaped who u are right now. You are probably a lot more stronger. Leave the past behind, and don't look back. Dwelling in the past is a great stumbling block. Plus what you see on t.v is drama, not always true. You live in the real life. Be grateful that you have a mom who cares for you. Forgive and forget!
2006-11-26 08:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by fldrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. Try to see it this way, you have a mom who has been also been your "dad" in a way and has taken care of you and made you who you are. Be proud of that. As for your father, I would feel sorry for him. Sorry that he was not there to see his beautiful girl grow to be a beautiful woman. Cherish your relationship with your mother and don't let it go. To hell with what TV shows say what a family should be. The main ingredient in any family is LOVE for each other. If you have that you can conquer many obstacles. I really think your mom told you about your father is just to show you how she feels about you. Some people have a hard time saying it, but I think your mom is trying to say she loves you and she will do anything in her power for you.
2006-11-26 08:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by mastr_of_nutin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that was probably something hard to hear, and I think your mother was very wrong telling you this, but be thankful. Be thankful your alive, that your mother loves you, that you've had a great life so far. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about your dad. I'm sorry he wasn't and isn't around, maybe it's for the best. You are a strong girl, you can pull through this. Be thankful that you at least have a mother who cares for you. That's all you need!
2006-11-26 08:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to feel that way too sweetie. I too was told my father got mad at my mother when she was pregnant with me and stop talking to her through the whole pregnacy and asked her to get an abortion and i too was not suppose to be born i was told i was an accident. I know it hurt you sweetie. And all those tv shows growing up seeing a perfect family only made you cry more I been there done that.
But you know what I bet your mother really loves you and your her preciious little angel. I think sometimes its better to have one loving parent than to have a mean mother or father. thats not love. And some dads can be very cruel and hit you too and put you down. so your better off not knowing your father sweetie.
Your very special and God wanted you hear for a reason. You will have good thing happen to you . chin up sweetie.
2006-11-26 17:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has a sad story! So your not alone! In-fact I can relate cause it happen to me...
Life is an illusion no one can forth cast your future.. However that's what makes it exciting to live and to learn..
Don't let what didn't happen in your life like a Father-Daddy
to hold you back from Living! People allow the bad of there past to dictate there rest of there life! Don't regret not having a Daddy
But capitalize what you do have! A Mom brother and sisters etc etc and like your Health! and being a Beautiful person
You take control of your future by living life to the fullest see what excitement that awaits don't contained your personality bet set it free that everyone can enjoy that special person who you are!
I'M happy your alive and I'M happy that you choose to live and learn, and mostly to forgive and love..
2006-11-26 08:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by FLEXizme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you were, but just remember that your Mom has been there to support you literally from day one. Just remember and give thanks on a daily basis that there is someone that loves you and cherishes you. My daughter has a father that basically ignores her...needless to say that is why we are divorced. Hopefully Mom has some male friends, (they do not have to be boyfriends) tha care about you. Maybe you could look into the Big Brother/Big Sister program.....
If you still feel depressed try finding a teacher that you like at school so you can talk to someone.
You are loved.....
2006-11-26 08:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, you are a vibrant intelligent young woman. The tiny fact that you have no father daughter relationship in no way diminishes you...your dreams wishes and hopes are as many other young women's you have grown into a wonderful very alive human being no less than were your father a part of your upbringing...your mother has done a fabulous job raising you instilling a thirst for learning a definite sense of self and an unquestionable love of life and people...be very proud of yourself and continue in your quest for a full and rewarding life...when you meet your mate I am positive you will be a fantastic partner and unmatched mother...so from me to you YOU GO GIRL!!
2006-11-26 08:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋