after thinking it through....to "let her go"....and other PEOPLE COME UP TO YOU AND ASK WHY DON'T YOU GUYS TALK ANYMORE....is it best to say..."oh, we just went in different directions..".."My it has been quite sometime"...and just walk away???? what is best to say????You know how people just LOVE TO GET IN YOUR BUSINESS>>>> but you are nice and don't tell them anything!!!!
2006-11-23 04:57:14 · 7 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Simply ask them.........."why would you ask?" That kind of puts them in a "uhh??" mode long enough for you to..........
then move onto a topic of conversation like sports or art, or a movie.......whatever!? Under no uncertain terms do you have to explain your personal life to anyone, period. If they are persistent, just say...I really don't feel comfortable discussing my personal life with anyone. And let it be!
It falls under NOTB "none of their business." Period.
Furthermore....stop letting this get to you. You can't change other people. Only thing you can control is your reaction or actions. Period.
2006-11-23 05:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always best not to stoop to the level of gossip-mongers. "Oh, we just went in different directions" is a completely reasonable explanation, a personal example of the classic phrase, in press releases and internal memoranda, informing readers that the founder and CEO has left the company "to pursue other interests."
The challenge is that busybodies frequently CAN'T leave it at that. So while a reasonable person, on hearing "We have gone in different directions," would question no further, the busybody is likely to press on.
In this case, you need to be firm without being rude yourself, with the balance between firmness and politeness varying with the intensity of the pursuit by the busybody. So a possible conversation might go as follows:
"Hey, KGJ, I noticed you don't talk to LHG much any more. What's going on between you two?"
"Oh, we just went in different directions."
"What do you mean? Did you have an argument?"
"That's not a subject I feel the need to discuss with anyone."
"Oh, you can tell ME -- what did you fight about?"
"I'm sorry," and at this point you may be permitted to look down your nose slightly at the busybody, "but I have told you that I will not discuss it."
It is rude to follow this up with, "What part of 'Shut your gaping maw, you silly cow' do you not understand?" It is not, however, rude to let your entire demeanour carry this sentiment to the silly cow in question.
Now, there are legitimate exceptions to this behaviour. If you and LHG (for "Let Her Go") are co-workers in a small organization or a tight functional group within a larger one, your manager or supervisor may legitimately direct you to get along, at least in public, in the interests of the company that employs you. Your manager may even inquire as to the nature of the disagreement; a really good manager (and yes, I have had at least three in my past 30 years of employment) will actually make an effort to smooth things over, either by separating the two of you or by having a discussion with LHG about her "disgusting" behavior, especially if it's something that is affecting others.
And, it may be that you must simply endure it for the sake of your paycheck. We are regularly put into such a position; as my father used to say, "That's why they call it work." If this is the case for you, consider it building up good karma to be polite and businesslike in the presence of LHG during circumstances in which you are forced, during the performance of your duties, to interact professionally. Naturally, the amount of good karma you feel the need to build up is inversely proportional to the health of the job market in your particular speciality -- meaning that in some cases, you may eventually one day be telling your ex-coworkers that you have decided to leave "to pursue other interests."
2006-11-23 13:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to say is what you said: tell the person you've gone in different directions. It can be intrusive when people ask personal questions like that, but sometimes they don't mean to be rude & are just curious. But you don't have to say anything you don't want to - you reveal what you want to reveal. I think it's best just to keep it simple & straightforward. Don't delve into details because you should respect your ex's privacy & maintain your own privacy. It's not anyone else's business what happened.
2006-11-23 13:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by lop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell them "I might _consider_ telling you if you'll first tell me the title of this book you're writing about me."
2006-11-23 13:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya.. u have the right idea... or just tell them its none of your busnies.. so dont try to make it yours.. err sumthing like that
2006-11-23 14:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by 09'Ready 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them none of your frizziness
2006-11-23 13:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by thù tỉ tỉ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to know?!
2006-11-23 13:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋