Ripped My Heart Out...my face is red of crying i feel it burnin...?

Question

I am with my bf now for 2 and a half years...he works overseas now and the day he went we ve bin strugglin but sometimes it goes well and sometimes it doesnt but i love him a lot...but bcoz work is pressuring him a lot he keeps hurtin me today he told me F*** you just like that:S and than quick after it he said jokin baby:S swearin at me is becomin more and more easy for him than before am shocked...he didnt pick up after he said this until now:S and he done this 3 times before and the next mornin he says sorry i fell asleep....ive got my doubts about him he cheated on me before...sometimes i feel that i wana leave him and i keep tellin him that but I CANTTTT AM TOOO WEAK i dont know what to do....am losttt.....what can i do to fix this relationship

am heartbroken for 1 year now ive bin cryin almost every day....

Answer 1

It's the most difficult thing to love someone and not to be able to live it with him. But when it happens and things start going wrong so much as you describe you owe it to yourself and to the nice moments you lived with him to move on. Just imagine if you break up with him while you feel love in your heart for him, he'll be a nice and warm memory. If you go on you'll end up hating the guy and you'll have nothing left of the nice moments you lived with him or from your nice memories. Every time you'll think of him there will just be negative thoughts. Do you want this to happen? Take a break and if things get better maybe you can fix this in the future. But i think the best is to just get all your strength together and move on.

Answer 2

He doesn't respect you at all. He expects you to forgive him readily each time but doesn't really mean his apology since he does it over and over.

You feel weak, and he obviously can see that because he's successfully battered your self-esteem and probably uses it to bind you to him.

I don't think you can fix this relationship because you can't change who he is nor who you are. If you tell him you're going to leave him but don't too many times, he won't take you seriously anymore.

I don't think you're too weak, I think you've been made to believe you're too weak. Make a list of all the things he's done to you and all the ways he's hurt you. Look at that list and realise that there's nothing left to love about him. Then you'll find the strength to leave him. And when you do, go cold turkey - no calls, no emails, no visits, nothing (this should be easier since he's overseas). Once he's flushed out of your system, you'll realise you've had that strength all along.

You deserve better than this idiot and everyone can see that.

Answer 3

you are not too weak. when a man calls you names like he has called you, then there is a problem.he has cheated on you and once they do it they will do it again most of the time.they say that distance brings fondness. well it sounds like he is not missing you at all or he would not be acting like he is. since he is gone i would go find some other activities to keep my mind off my hurt and begin to pursue another life without him. take the first step and make up your mind that you will start over and find someone who will respect you and treat you like a lady.ask god to heal your hurt and go to church and get involved with good activities find someone who needs help and get involved with helping others. go one day at a time. take the plunge and let go. soon youll feel much better and there will be a change in your heart.you are a good person and deserve better.

Answer 4

if you have been unhappy for that long - you need to either get out and stop wasting your time especially if he has cheated on you and is treating you that way. there is a word for it - its called abuse. take my advice if its been a year where youve been unhappy things probably never change. but if you feel the relationship is worth keeping - try talking to him or break up with him for a while and maybe he will realize his own mistakes and change - if not- thats his loss. there are plenty other guys in the world - dont get caught up with this jerk

Answer 5

You do not need to fix this relationship you need to move on. he talks to you like garbage and he has cheated on you. There are several men out there think about it this way you were ok before you met him right? You will be ok when he is gone. You did meet him what makes you think you will not meet anyone else? You need to leave him.

Answer 6

Are you kdding me dont get hurt relationships work when both are happy your not and hes not if both of you are unhappy it kinda a no brainer ya know tell him how you feel tell him its not working and explain why and tell him how you feel.... my cousin was seeing this guy on and off for 10 years and they finaly got married so hun if its ment to be it will

Answer 7

ok leave him, no man is worht 2 months worht of tears so your 10 overdue. if he is overseas then it shouldnt be to hard to leave him. esp. if he cheats on you and tells you "f*ck you" a lot. your a woman and use your woman power and go get a new man and show him you did f*ck offand look what it did it made u happy!! cheer up theres more out there!

Answer 8

you should write him a nice letter maybe, via US mail.

then he could know what is happening and could respond.

Then maybe in person if you both want it. Sound to me like there are things both ways that should be talked about anyway.

If you cry about it so often, he probably does too, maybe he just wants to be able to cry about it and can't even do that.

Answer 9

Hon, you are handing yourself over for mistreatment. You're not strong enough? That's BS you made up because you don't want to leave. Look into my cyber-eyes and repeat after me- I AM STRONG. You can leave. You need to leave. This guy is a jerk who is swaering at you, cheating on you, and lying to you. He doesn't deserve you, and you don't deserve this crud. This relationship does not need to be "fixed", it needs to be "ended".

Answer 10

If he is being abusive to you, there's no reason to stay in the relationship. I know, you feel that you love him still, but once your apart you'll feel free. If he really treats you like this, don't waste your time on it, there are plenty of other guys.