My fiance & I had alot of problems last year. He was going back & forth. Because he wasn't sure if he wanted to marry me. It was partly my fault. I come from a strickt culture where I couldn't hold his hands, kiss or show simple affection. He was frustrated with me. I also had bad habbits like buying things out of impulse & getting up late. Early this year I fell in love with him & completly changed my behavior, started showing him affection & now I tell him all the time how much I love him. He is a sweet & caring guy. He helps my mother & I alot in many ways. I made a mistake by discussing my problems with my sis when my fiance & I didn't get along. She only met him 3 times when we went to visit her out of state. Now she cannot stand him. She called my best friend & said she is oposed to this wedding. But she is the maid of honor because when I picked my friend to be maid of honor she got upset. Now my friend wants to tell me why my sis is against my marriage. I am scared & sad.
2006-11-22 02:54:14 · 9 answers · asked by cluelesschickus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Is your sister single? Because misery loves company. If I were you, I would try to focus on your wedding. It is YOUR day, not your sister's or your best friend's. Plus, if you live in a different state, what does she really know about him anyway? You are the one who is going to spend your life with him.
I had to learn the hard way that sometimes it is best to keep any relationship problems between you and your partner. Your loved ones do not know how to react when they see you are upset. I have been married nearly 3 years, and early on, I would cry to my mother or aunt or sister about how insensitive my husband was because he won't help me cook. I freaked out and said I was going to divorce him.
Of course, I was just blowing off steam. But they just thought my marriage was falling apart and that I was a mess. So once you realize that nobody will ever really know what is going on in your relationship except you and your fiance, you will learn that people you talk to will tell you whatever the easiest answer is, and it is usually very wrong.
Remember, it's your wedding, and when it's all said and done, it's your life. In the end, you and your husband have each other.
2006-11-22 03:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by strawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why people must be careful in taking outsiders into their confidence about their mate. But you would think that a sister would stand by you no-matter-what. But that's not always the case.
If you have indeed matured and are truly in love with this man, and he feels the same, then proceed with your wedding plans.
Go to your sister, not through a friend, and tell her that you are marrying this man. You would like to have her support, but if she chooses not to give it, then you feel that you need to choose a MoH that will do so. Let your sister tell you why she opposes the marriage.
I'm curious tho' how your mother is feeling about all this contention between her girls. Has she given you any advice? Maybe you should discuss some of this with her as well. Maybe you should take Mom with you when you go to talk with your sister.
This is not an easy situation; but not an unusual one as well.
Good luck.
2006-11-22 03:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your sister thank you for your support but that this is what you want and you would appreciate it a lot more if she actually supported your decision. Tell her that you realize she is scared for you but that it is YOUR decision not hers. Tell her how things have changed and that this is what you want. Let her in on the details of your life now. Like how sweet he is, the little things he does for you, etc. Tell her that why you respect her opinion its not right for her to be like she is being. After all, I tried to boycott my own mothers wedding...... I didn't like her husband but out of my love for my mom I pushed aside my opinion to make her happy. If your sister really loves you she will back off and just support you. You and her should really have a heart to heart...... maybe there are other reasons you don't know about. In the end if she refuses to give your happiness a shot tell her if she cant "behave" then maybe she should sit this wedding out for your happiness. Its not about her..... it about you. Well good luck hope I managed to help some..... and congratulations on your upcoming marriage where I wish you a long life of happiness and love.
2006-11-22 03:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister is opposed to this wedding then she shouldn't be the maid of honor...in fact, if you think it is going to cause a scene, she shouldn't be invited anyways. Don't make things hard on yourself because more stress is not what you need...Just tell your sister that you love her very much, but if she doesn't agree with the wedding that she isn't welcome to attend.
2006-11-22 03:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be scared or sad your sister is wrong.if you really love this guy it shouldnt matter what anyone thinks really you two are in love dont let your sister come between yall two love just tell her how u feel and if she doesnt comes around dont invited her to the wedding cause she will understand that you really must love him deeply to kick your own sister out of the wedding.
2006-11-22 03:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by diane c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she needs to provide up thinking approximately herself and in the different case she's not invited or the maid of honor on the marriage. i be attentive to he in all probability pulls the entire " I care approximately you deal" yet we are all grown united statesnow and excuses like that have been meant to stay in center college. I dunno what kinda of sister could be disillusioned on the certainty that her sister is approximately to start a appealing new lifestyle together with her fiance. surely, i think of she's jealous. She in all probability will attempt very not ordinary to start drama and make the happiest day of your life depressing. coach her a lesson and tell her she needs to act like an grownup and unlike a newborn anymore. shop the Drama for yet another mama
2016-10-12 22:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first response. Elope. Best of luck.
2006-11-22 04:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt your true commitment to this relationship. I would end it now before it ends in divorce - because it more then likely will.
2006-11-22 03:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
e l o p e.
2006-11-22 03:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by yesssssssss 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋