this happened in april in the dominican republic. Some bozo was swimming with his wallet and of course lost it in the water. I found it but my swimming shirts had no pockets so I gave it to a friend and we debated for a long time whether to give it back or not. At first he wanted to keep it but he saw the guy looking for it and gave it back under the excuse something bad might happen to us.Later he regretted and said we should have kept it but i think he was just trying to make peace with me which we did soon after that. I was pretty upset at not having pockets in my swimmg pants cause if it stayed with me i would have never given it back. So would u give the wallet back or not?
2006-11-21 14:49:08 · 34 answers · asked by RT 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
its a commonly used phrase, perhaps youve heard it "finders keeps , losers weepers".
I understand the man may have NEEDED the money and every possible situation around that one would require money of that amount, but the fact is, it was only due to YOUR Efforts that the money was even found. Did the man even give you a finders fee? I would have at least claimed 10% to 20% because it was only thru YOUR being present that the money was even taken note of and not drifted out to sea to be eaten by a shark.
Would I have given it back? No. Why? Because life isnt fair. Fair is a lie we tell to children in order to keep them in line. And personally, I know for a fact I can use that money- you can only speculate on the man who lost its needs for it. Who carries that much money in cash anyway- thats nothing Im personally able to do- it was foolish to have that much money in cash, on a beach- foolish. He should have learned from losing it.
and for you IDOITS who believe in KARMA, KARMA made the MAN LOSE THE MONEY to begin with- so figure it out
2006-11-21 15:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by . S 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Yes. A wallet is an identifiable item and you can identify the owner of the $1,000 because it is in the wallet. The only right thing to do is to return it. However, I believe anyone with that much cash in the wallet should give a good reward...after all, that's quite a bit to lose, and you know that the temptation for someone to find and keep it is great.
2006-11-22 01:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I'd give it back! It's not mine! It's also the right thing to do.
How would YOU feel if YOU were on vacation and lost your wallet with all your money, IDs and credit cards in it?
I have NEVER kept a found wallet. EVER. (I've found three). I hope that I never lose my wallet. But if it does happen to me, I certainly hope you don't find it.
2006-11-22 02:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you were a Ferengi, you'd know that the first rule of acquisition states: once you have their money, you never give it back!
On a more serious note, since we are humans, there is no right answer. Sure giving it back would make that person happy for a bit, but long-term happiness depends on personal disposition, not events that happen, and long-term happiness is what really matters. Ultimately you are responsible to yourself and to yourself alone. If you make the personal choice to keep the money and accept the consequences of your gnawing conscience, then that's a moral act. If you make the choice to give back the money and accept the consequences of possible regrets when you are broke, then that's moral too. But if you give the money back thinking you've no choice 'cause God is going to send you to hell if you don't, then that has no moral value whatsoever. That's fleeing from consequence and fleeing from responsibility, and it's childish. You are responsible for every choice you make.
And on a side note, there's no karma. There's just our mental association of unrelated events due to misconceptions of how the universe works.
2006-11-21 16:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
well I know that recently my wallet was stolen with a large amount of cash...and after going through that I would never be able to keep someone's wallet...it's so much more than just the money...it's replacing driver's license, social security cards. etc...it would have been so much better if the person had just taken the money out and left the wallet.
2006-11-21 15:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm torn on this one.
Of course it's the other stuff in the wallet that counts other than the $-credit cards, ID, photos-times I lost my wallet I'd gladly give up the $ to get that stuff back. But a lot of people are jerks and wouldn't even offer a reward.
$1000 is alot of $ but if he couldn't afford to lose it why wasn't it in the hotel safe?-swimming with that much is asking for trouble.
I guess I'd give it back but think the guy was a loser.
2006-11-21 15:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
This is etiquette, not ethics, but since I know my answer I will reply...YES I would give it back. All I have to do is think...how would I feel if I lost my wallet with $1,000 in it. Your friend made the right decision, one he can live with always.
2006-11-21 15:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
supply the wallet back yet save the money as a reward. i'm beneficial they have extra to spare. except its somebody damaging who substitute into donning all their money, then you definately would be in charge continuously,
2016-11-26 00:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by szewc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would have. Could you imagine if you lost your wallet with a huge amount of money in it? Heck, only $100 would be a lot to me.
2006-11-21 15:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by schaianne 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in the new water company in Greenville S.C.7 yrs ago.or so. and there was a large wallet laying there on the counter, it had a black women's picture id in it, and there was plenty of 100s and fifty's.and i had a twenty dollar bill after paying my bill. but I turned it in and I really could have used the money, but it was her money not mine.I didn't regret it later.I would have felt bad about me keeping it for the remainder of my life. and it wasn't worth the guilt.
2006-11-21 14:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋