if someone upsets you?

Question

and then brings you lunch do you have to eat it just to be polite,

Answer 1

Some good answers here. If they bring you lunch, that is a nice gesture. If they sense that they have hurt you in some way, but have a difficult time apologizing or making amends, this lunch may be saying, "Please forgive me"...

Always, accept a sincere apology or gesture. Your sins or misdeeds will be forgiven as well.

If they can't be sincere about an apology, don't continue to be mad. That only makes you suffer. Their lack of sincerity and compassion will give them peace of mind, while you are still upset from their insensitivity. So, if a person upsets you and coldly remarks, "sorry"...that might not give you the satisfaction of an apology. But, if you accept the "weak" apology (reluctantly) you won't have to carry the burden of that anger and frustration that they brought you anymore

Funny how that works...

Answer 2

My mom upsets me all the time and when she brings lunch I get sick from it She wants me to take a certain vitamin Q10. and threatens me when I refuse. I am an adult and she says that when I am under her roof, she can tell me off and make me do what she wants. If I dont, she will spray something to make my asthma worse and then say that she has asthma but doesnt want a dirty or cluttered house and these products will help the house stay clean.
She always wants me to eat even if I am having a difficult time breathing and then says that if I dont eat and end up in the hospital she will never come to see me while I am in there. And she always sticks to her promises it seems.
She told dad that she would never go to his funeral and she didnt. Everyone was expecting her to be there and she said she wasnt up to coming, but then afterwards in the house told us that she had already told dad that when he died or if he was ever in a nursing home or hospital she would never go to see him. And she kept that promise to herself.

Answer 3

Its possible that the lunch is a form of apology; a peace offering, so to speak. Or maybe they don't know that they upset you. Why don't you accept it as a gesture of friendship and be forgiving? It takes far less energy to be polite than it does to be angry. Focus that energy where it can be productive, not destructive.

Answer 4

No. You don't HAVE to do anything ( except die one day ) but what a WONDERFUL opportunity to talk to them and let them know they upset you. Give them a chance to explain.
Perhaps bringing you lunch was their way of apologizing for what they did or said?

Answer 5

I think an apology is appropriate before anyone eats their lunch.

Otherwise, you are given this person permission to " upset you " then buy you more things to excuse there apology.

Answer 6

Are they bringing you lunch as an apology? In that case, it is right you should eat it.

Answer 7

to everyone his taste and his life-style.no specific rule. it would bother me -- specially if the meal was not "cordon bleu", voila. seriously I have seen that kind of relationships in couples -- they have a big fight and then they are off to see a movie -- and after the movie a restaurant. at times after the movie...they go and jump together into an intimate relationship. to every one his/her taste. in your case if you are hungry -- eat don't bother to think, if you are not hungry and specially if the meal is not appealing -- say you want a "rain check", otherwise -- find a poor soul and give the meal to her/him...that is one solution to keep the relationship on "ice". hope it helps you (not the relationship).

Answer 8

Not enough detail. If the person is trying to apoligize that is a good thing. You should be gracious. But you have not said enough detail for this situation.

Answer 9

If they are truly trying to apologize it would make you look like a jerk to not accept it. Holding grudges is not good for you. It is better to forgive and forget,

Answer 10

They are trying to make amends. I would order something slightly pricey but not over the top & enjoy!