and tomorrow is his mom's birthday. I've been invited to go out to dinner with the family for her birthday, so I thought it would be appropriate to give her a small present, so I bought a nice candle and a little holder to go with it. But I heard him mention that he needs to go buy his mom a card. Not a present, just a card. Should I feel uncomfortable giving her a gift when her own son didn't get her anything more than a card?
2006-11-21 08:45:58 · 34 answers · asked by killerqueen040 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, go ahead and give her your gift. That was really sweet and thoughtful of you. I'm sure she'll think the same and appreciate your gift. Some guys are not into buying gifts, your boyfriend may be one of those guys. My husband doesn;t buy his Mom gifts. I usually take the money from him and do stuff like that and then it's from the both of us!!
2006-11-21 08:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Trisha O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as an older mother, I think the candle is a very nice gift! I would think she would appreciate your thoughtfulness.
Maybe your bf is going to give her something, too. If not, I'd wonder if he is the gift-giving type. You don't say how old he is. Maybe he needs to be told in a nice way that he should get his mom something.
I hope you have a good time!
2006-11-21 22:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he already has a gift for her and just needs to add a card to it. Go ahead and give her the candle. I'm sure she will love that you thought about her.
2006-11-21 10:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was first reading I was going to say just get her a card, but I think the candle is a good idea. Of course its a good idea your being nice
2006-11-21 08:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by hibdib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was nice of u get get her a present and it shows ur thoughtful. But do let him know u got her something so if he dint get her anything that could give him a hint to pick something up for her. yes make sure u have a card to go along with the gift and i dont thing joing the present is a good idea cose u have not been datting to long.
2006-11-21 09:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give her the card and candle together from both of you. Check with him, though, he may all ready have her present, and might just need a card to go with it.
2006-11-21 08:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't feel uncomfortable but, you should also give her a card. Because he might also have a gift for her along with the card.
2006-11-21 08:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooo. That's tricky. Maybe since he said he needs to get her a card you should say that you got her this candle and candle holder, and suggest that it be from the both of you.
2006-11-21 08:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definately the right thing to get her a present, since the dinner is for her birthday. I think that's much classier than a card in this situation. She won't think it's weird, she'll probably think you're a sweet girl.
2006-11-21 12:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say go with the candle ...it's not that big of a gift. The gesture is very nice though. Perhaps your boyfriend is paying toward the meal and he considers that his gift.
2006-11-21 12:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋