wife's father in law passed away. Funeral is Saturday but I am standing in a wedding for my friend of 20 years out of the country that day as well. If i go, i miss the funeral. Wife's mother had only been married to this man for 3 years, it's her third marriage. Wife is scheduled to go to wedding with me also. Does she stay and I go, or am I obligated to stay for funeral??
2006-11-21 04:45:48 · 27 answers · asked by juan b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
wedding, you can not do anything to bring him back. and the go later to the funeral
:> peace
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2006-11-24 17:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are IN the wedding you really should be there. Let your wife stay back if she wants to go to the funeral. Now is a little to late to back out of being in a wedding.
2006-11-21 05:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are not related by blood to the deceased, and apparently were not that close to him, I think it is totally acceptable that you not attend the funeral, especially since you are a groomsman for your friend. Attendance at a funeral is largely a mark of respect to the surviving family members, so if your wife and mother-in-law understand your dilemna, it's okay.
Make sure to send flowers or a personalized card or something to your mother-in-law expressing your regret.
Since your wife is not in the wedding party, her closer relation to the deceased and her mother's need for support/comfort should take precedence. She should stay for the funeral, and you go to the wedding.
2006-11-21 05:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife's father in law would be your father. Go to your Dad's funeral. The wedding people will understand.
2006-11-21 07:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to go to your friend's wedding since plans for that were made far in advance. Your friend would surely be very disappointed if you did not show up for his wedding. Even though you would like to be by your wife's side at her father-in-law's funeral, everyone will understand why you are not there. Celebrate life.
2006-11-21 05:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife's father in law would be YOUR father. Do you mean your wifes step father? I think she should stay and you should go to the wedding if there is no way to change the date of the funeral.
2006-11-21 05:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think standing up in your friend's wedding has to take precedence over the funeral. Your wife should go to the funeral though. It is her mother's husband.
2006-11-21 05:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitly Funeral
2006-11-21 04:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you go to the wake and not the funeral. Also attend the wedding with your wife.
2006-11-21 22:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife should stay and attend funeral and to help her mother through the funeral day.
If you are not close to your mother-in-law and were not close to her husband, you should attend the wedding.
2006-11-21 06:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by TXlioness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough problem. Since you are in the wedding I think that that should come first. Let your wife go to the funeral. But I am kind of confused wouldn't your wifes father in law be your Dad?
2006-11-21 04:50:26 · answer #11 · answered by mommawe 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋